As I stood in line with my daughter at the deli today, she all of a sudden came next to me and hugged me. Not just a short hug but a 10+ minute, cuddle in public, hold for the whole time we waited to place our order hug. Now for some of you, that might not be a big deal. You may have a daughter that likes to cuddle or who hasn’t hit the teen years. But for me this was a big deal! My daughter is 13 and physical touch is not her love language. Even as a baby she did not like to cuddle too much. She was independent and on the go.
I consider myself a busy person. I am a wife, mother of two, business owner, author, volunteer, friend, bible study leader, etc… Really, I am too busy and it’s not something I am proud of, at all. Many times I am too busy thinking “What’s next?” or “What do I need to get done?” I don’t stop and relish in the small things. The old adage, “Stop and smell the roses”… I don’t even see the roses as I rush by in haste.
Today I was not too busy. I stopped to notice the roses, my daughter. I held onto her the whole time and loved every minute of it. Forgotten was the line, the need to be home in 45 minutes, what I was going to prepare for dinner. I stopped and was in that moment and appreciated the present. What a gift.
In all of our lives (school, work, home) we need to stop being so busy and find the joy in the little things. Yes, we need to get our work done. Yes, our kids need to study. Yes, we need to do our housework. But what comes first? We can still get everything done with taking the time to quiet our minds and have those moments with family and friends.
Try these ideas:
• While driving or at meals do not allow technology; phones, tv, computers. This allows you and the people you are with to truly unplug and connect with each other.
• Once a month take time to be alone with each child. This does not need to be an elaborate affair. A simple walk with the dog, bagels at the local shop, or a dinner date. Take one child along when you run errands.
• Be ready to listen. It’s a sign of great respect when someone really listens to what you are saying, making others feel important.
I will be doing my best to take my own advice and stop thinking about “What’s next?” and enjoy what’s right in front of me now.
What makes you too busy to stop and “smell the roses”?
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Matthew 11:28 ESV
By Megan Stone, M.Ed.
Wife to Rick
Mom of two
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of Stone Foundations of Learning, Inc.