What do I want my kids to remember about this Christmas and all the Christmases to come? I cannot be the only mom that envisions huge family gatherings twenty years in the future where all the kids are present and they begin to remember their childhood with laughter and sentiment.
Last year was my first year as a mom of six after adopting three more children. I went all out. Ok, let’s be honest, I LOST my mind. I had to make them feel welcome. I had to make it even so they felt everything was fair. I had to give similar gifts in size and number so everyone felt loved and valued, right?
By February, just about every toy, robot, racing set, and remote control car was either broken, lost or goes completely untouched. (I think Legos are the best investment I have ever made for my six kids. They are the only thing they continually play with years after purchase.)
Why? Why do we do this? Not just me, all of us. Why do we race to beat the clock for the best deals, gadgets, and gizmos and all our kids want more than anything is US?
They want us! That is what I want my kids to remember about Christmas and their entire childhood. That their parents adored them and were always present. Not just in their lives or in the room, but fully present. So I have wised up a bit. My plans for this Christmas will include a few things I know my children will treasure. However, I plan to focus on being present, and open, and graceful, and forgiving, and loving, and nurturing, and everything they need me to be this Christmas and every day.
No amount of money, gifts or privileges will take your place. Your kids want your undivided attention and that is exactly what they will remember twenty years from now at the dinner table. Isn’t that what we really want? Give them the ultimate gift. YOU! Unfiltered you!
If you, then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children,
how much more will your Father in Heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him?
What can you do to be less “material” focused and more “relationship” focused as this Christmas approaches?