I think parents default to one of two positions:
1) child worship… everything our child wants is delivered in a timely and near-perfect fashion,
2) self worship… time with our child has to fit into our schedule when we have the time, energy, disposition to enjoy it.
Sadly, neither of these paradigms are how God intended us to interact with our children. God calls us to be intentional in our parenting (Ephesians 6:4): to administer both love and discipline. To cuddle, not coddle. To enjoy, not endure. Christ worship leads us to intentional parenting that empowers us to raise great adults. In a recent 1C13P blog, I read that it shouldn’t be our goal to raise great kids, but rather our goal is to raise great adults. (1)
But how do we become intentional in our parenting? It’s a mix of love and discipline. It’s creating time for fun that leads to relationship. Kids don’t want to hear what we have to say if they don’t feel valued. And guess what, if they think they hold all the power, then they don’t want to hear us either – because they’ve been led to believe that they already know everything.
Here are the TOP 10 REASONS we should INTENTIONALLY PLAY with our kids.
- Because it opens the door to conversation.
- Because play relieves stress. (2)
- Because fun leads to relationship.
- Because it creates space away from the mundane. (Think fort building and fairy gardens.)
- Because YOU need it.
- Because THEY need it. (3)
- Because it gives you permission to put your smart phone away. (Enough said.)
- Because you can’t take tomorrow for granted.
- Because you’re building your relationship for the future. (4)
- Because it creates joy and God loves a happy heart. (Proverbs 17:22)
The living, the living—they praise you, as I am doing today;
parents tell their children about your faithfulness.
How can you make time to play with your kids for the sake of honoring Christ in your life?
By Jenna Hallock
Wife to Mark, Mom of two
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Family Time Training
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1. 9 Questions for Author Joanne Kraft by L. Wildenberg posted on March 20, 2015.
2. 12 Tips to Reduce Your Child’s Stress and Anxiety by A. Przeworski Ph.D. posted on Feb. 19, 2013.
3. How to Stop Watching and Really Play With Our Kids by B. Mansfield posted on Jan. 27, 2015.
4. Why Playing with Your Kids is so Important by Parenthood.com.
If you like this post, check out The Purpose of Play.
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