So, you missed the sales on Black Friday. Your Christmas budget is smaller than ever. Your kids’ list is full of expensive technology items that make you nervous that your children will want to spend less and less time with you. What can you get them that will have the biggest impact, the most value, and will even leave a legacy? The gift of a strong marriage!
Research shows that kids who grow up in a home with a strong marriage are more likely to have better grades, behave well in school, and steer clear of substance abuse problems.
- Take your spouse on a date! Show your kids you enjoying spending time with your spouse. By setting aside time for your marriage, you show that your marriage is a priority, even during this busy season.
- Pay your spouse compliments in front of your children. “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold.” Our kids are listening when we compliment our spouse. We are giving a gift of honor and love.
For some of you, this gift may feel too costly, too hard to give. You may not be in a place in your marriage where you are feeling connected. Intentionally spending time with your spouse would feel like a real stretch. What a generous gift this would be for you to give! Think of the turn it may make in your family and your future.
For others, this seems like no big deal. “Of course I love my spouse,” you’re thinking. How do you show this love to your spouse? How can your children see your marriage is strong and growing? Often, we think our marriage will just be there when we have more time to focus on it, but just like any relationship, your marriage is either growing in a positive direction or slowly getting weaker. Just think…
- When was your last date?
- When was the last time you gave your spouse a compliment?
This Christmas, give yourself and your kids the best Christmas gift ever; time devoted to a strong marriage!
By Heather Larson
Wife to Peter, Mom of 3
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member, Associate Director of 10 Great Dates