There’s a terrorist running loose nearby, desiring to behead, burn, and bash our children. This terrorist is not Islamic, clad in black, or carrying a gun. This terrorist is called pornography. It’s clad in nothing, literally, and it wants to take over your child’s life. Consider the following statistics:
- Average age of first view of pornography in the U.S.– 11 years
- 90% of 8 to 16 year olds have viewed porn online
- 20% of teens have sent or posted nude or seminude pictures of themselves
- 71% of teen girls (67% of boys) report posting/sending sexually suggestive content to a boyfriend/girlfriend
- 25% of teen girls say they have had nude/semi-nude images shared with them that were originally intended for someone else
And these numbers may be low. Both Internet pornography and social media usage have increased since 2009 when the above data was reported, as streaming speeds and smart phone usage have increased.
My concern for our children is not a product of being a prude in sexual matters. Ok, if prude means believing in sexual intercourse as sacredly reserved for marriage, then yes, I am a prude. But I certainly want our kids to enjoy sex once they are married.
Pornography not only stains the individual, but also reduces sexual satisfaction within marriage. Pornography is a cheap substitute for intimacy, thus its poisonous effects last far beyond the moment. Pornography is a factor in more than 50% of divorces, so its poison is multi-generational.
We need to face the real threat to the next generation posed by pornography and sex outside of marriage. Here are four suggestions.
- Be public. Make sure your child’s internet usage is in public. Monitor it. Do not provide your child a smart phone unless you can safely restrict it.
- Be pro-active. Teach the right things about sex before the world teaches the wrong things. Pair your teaching about sex with teaching about love and marriage so that the focus is positive and not negative.
- Be prayerful. God’s grace is needed to protect our kids in this super-sexual culture.
- Be protective. Install filtering software on your computer.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification;
that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality…
1 Thessalonians 4:3
Are you harboring a terrorist in your home?
By James D. Dempsey, Ph.D.
Husband to Gail
Father of three
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Presenter for The National Center For Biblical Parenting
Author of Parenting Unchained
Host of the radio show, Parenting Unchained, at www.LOTOradio.com
Click on Jim’s book, Parenting Unchained, for a link to read more!