“It takes guts to stay married . . . There will be many crises between the wedding day and the golden anniversary, and the people who make it are heroes.” Howard Whiteman
A few weeks ago, our daughter-in-law successfully ran the Marine Corps Marathon in Washington, DC. With all the hills, this marathon is one of the more difficult ones. When we hike for six or seven miles, we think it’s a big accomplishment, but to run 26.2 miles on a hot and humid Fall day was simply amazing!
Maybe you’ve never run a marathon, but you have other challenges where the path is long and it’s hard to keep going and not give up. For instance, building a successful marriage is like running a marathon with the goal of reaching the finish line–together! Unfortunately, too many couples sprint into marriage with little commitment or preparation and with no game plan to actually complete the race. Building a strong marriage is hard work but like running a marathon, it’s worth all the effort.
We recently celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary with our extended family! (Of course, we were ten and twelve when we got married.) A highlight of the gathering was being interviewed by our grandkids. Among the questions they asked us were, “What was your worse fight?” and “What was your best great date?” It was so much fun sharing our memories with our family that also included God’s faithfulness to us over the years.
You don’t need to wait until you’ve been married 50 years to share your memories. Why not take some time now to reflect on what your have experienced together to this point? Then consider what you want your relationship to look like when you reach the end of your race. Find a quiet place–a coffee shop, park, or even an open church where you can talk privately. You could use the following questions as conversation joggers:
- What are our dreams for our marriage?
- What might keep us from achieving them?
- What can we do together for fun?
- What are our financial goals?
- How can we grow closer together spiritually?
We hope our questions will help you pace yourself for your marathon. When we come to the end of our race and look back over our lives and marriage, we hope we will be able to say what the Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy in 2 Timothy 4: 7.8.
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race.
I have kept the faith.
Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness,
which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day.
2 Timothy 4:7,8
By David & Claudia Arp
Parents of 3
Grandparents of 10
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Members
Founders of Marriage Alive and 10 Great Dates
Authors of many great marriage, relationship, and parenting books including their newest title, Day Starters for Couples: 45 Devotions from God’s Heart to Yours.
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