It is easy to get frustrated when you are trying something new. As we enter into 2017, it is common to set goals and resolutions for change (i.e. becoming healthier, focused, more positive, kicking a bad habit). Unfortunately, it seems like many of us can create these goals from out of a place of “lacking something.”
To put it another way, the change we pursue is often motivated by unhappiness and frustration. Operating out of fear and discontent leads me to fail at achieving my goals! I get overwhelmed by what I feel I am lacking. I jealously compare myself to others, which heightens my sense of discontentment. I then become consumed by that anxiety and fear and end up returning to an old bandaid (temporary solutions to a much deeper pain). When I compare myself out of jealousy, I lose access to joy and disconnect with God. I feel a sense of “unrest.”
Ever been in that place? I have, many times! contentment
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Don’t we all want a greater sense of joy in our lives? I know I do. And I want to combat anything that attempts to steal it from me. To be content means, “being in a state of peaceful happiness, joy, and satisfaction; being pleased or gratified.”
I have found that contentment is tied to rest and gratitude; scripture will back me up on this:
- Psalm 131:2 (TPT) says, “I am humbled and quieted in your presence. Like a contented child that rests on it’s mother’s lap, I’m your resting child, and my soul is content in you.”
- Colossians 3:15 says, “And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.”
What if, instead of responding to the fear that comes from scary, hard circumstances, we chose to enter into His presence? I am learning the importance of changing my habits and reaching my goals from a place of contentment, instead of jealousy- from a place of love, instead of fear. Gratitude and rest are powerful weapons to combat the schemes of the enemy.
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melodie Beattie1
1. Write down some things that are causing you fear in your life right now.
2. CROSS THEM OUT. Write three things you are grateful for next to each fear you crossed out.
3. Pray the prayer below. contentment
Father, I surrender into your loving arms, your holy hug. I feel rest here. Thank you for your rest and for giving me access to contentment despite my frustrating circumstances. Overwhelm the things that overwhelm me! Take my fear of ________. It is refreshing to remember that I am thankful for ________, ________, and ________. When the fear of ________ tries to creep back in, help me to use the things I’m grateful for to destroy it. You are so faithful, Lord. Amen
So there is a special rest still waiting for the people of God.
For anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from his own work,
just as God did from his.
Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest…
By Kegan Mosier, MA, LPCC
Husband to Mikelle
Dad of one daughter, Reese Noel
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Mental Health Counselor at Cornerstone Christian Counseling
Worship/Creative Ministries Pastor at Passionate Life Church
1.Beattie, Melodie. The Language of Letting Go. (Hazelden Publishing: Center City, 1990) p. 218.