I’ve said it over and over: If we want to stop the bleeding in this nation when it comes to teen pregnancy, high school drop outs, crime, substance abuse, teen runaways and suicide, then we MUST get to the fathers! Yes it’s necessary to have programs in place to treat the above social and domestic problems; but just like anything, failure to address the root cause will result in repeated actions.
Without taking away from the amazing moms who are already pulling double-duty as a parent, the fact remains: Fathers (or father-figures) play a significant role in their children’s overall academic success, social well-being, and self-perception.
One way is to reach deeper into your immediate sphere of influence is to form (or strengthen) an established single father ministry in your church.
Who is a “single father”?
- Any man who has full or primary care of his children
- Noncustodial fathers
- Any man who is (or wants to be) involved in his children’s lives
Did you know?
- 83% of the time moms will be the primary caregiver in a single parent home
- Less than 1/3 of single parents attend church regularly
- Single dad homes in 1960: 300,000 Today: Over 2.2 million
- In ministering to full-time Christian single fathers, we also have the potential to reach thousands of unchurched, non-custodial dads (who are found anywhere from jail to the mall; from addiction centers to the gym).
Why is this important to recognize?
If you check out our latest YouTube video, you may notice that none of the guys in the video were ever married before they became fathers. Yes, we have divorced men in the group, and a couple are even the primary caregivers of their children. Simply put, these men are great guys who have found themselves in difficult circumstances and they need a resource to help them along the way so they can be the best dads possible and pour into their children’s lives.
I once heard a pastor say, “Our choices now have the ability to affect up to a minimum of three generations: ours, our children’s, and our grandchildren’s.”
It’s now the norm for children born to women under the age of 30 to be born out of wedlock.
With the divorce rate floating right around the same numbers, our choice to minister (or not minister) to single parents can have the same generational impact; but it is up to us to determine if it will be allowing fatherlessness to continue or to begin to heal single parent families through Christ.
My prayer would be your church would join us in the unbelievable experience of ministering to these dads so that we can begin to transform generations, one family at a time.
They said, “Believe in the Lord Jesus,
and you will be saved, you and your household.”
Acts 16:31 NASB
Church, will you begin to reach out to single fathers in your community, or wait for someone else to do it?
By Matt Haviland
Dad of one daughter
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of “A Father’s Walk”
Author of A Father’s Walk: A Christian-Based Resource for Single Fathers and co-author of The Daddy Gap
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