Today, more than ever, temptations and excuses are blowing marriages of course. Still many couples find themselves surprised when temptation has come their direction. Even knowing the statistics of affairs, addictions, and divorce, many couples have a naive assumption that they will be safe from these lures. Christian couples are not immune to these desires, but we do have a choice.
Be prepared. Stand firm.
In 1 Corinthians 15:58, Paul warns us to “Stand firm. Let nothing move you.” When you are told to stand firm because some kind of push will be coming, you prepare yourself. You stand with your knees bent and arms out to balance. You plant your feet firmly on the ground in a “ready position.” If you’re not standing ready, you are more susceptible to falling.
Standing firm in marriage starts with a committed attitude. Take the option of divorce off the table. Communicate your commitment often to your spouse.
Find an accountability group or partner. Do you have a place you share if you are feeling tempted? Secrets have power. Once you’ve stepped a bit off course, even if it’s just in your mind, it’s best to confess to the Lord and invite a friend or your spouse to help you stay on course.
Set up clear rules and boundaries with people of the opposite sex. There are plenty of excuses or reasons to meet with friends or colleagues of the opposite sex. Make a rule to always meet in public. Share your rules and guidelines with your spouse. Use online filters to keep the ease of inappropriate images from coming into your home.
Run from temptation! Don’t dance around with temptation, justifying, “It’s just innocent flirting.” If you’re married, there is nothing innocent about flirting. It is a slippery slope so run away before you start to slide.
Pray! Stay Alert! Do not be fooled or naive believing because you’re in a Christian marriage you are somehow exempt from temptations. The enemy would like nothing more than to destroy your marriage and family. Remember, you are not alone. Romans 8:31 reminds us God is for us! He is for your marriage, too.
Stand firm. Let nothing move you.
1 Corinthians 15:58
What will you do to stand firm in your marriage today?
By Heather Larson, M.A.
Wife to Peter, Mom of three
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Associate Director of 10 Great Dates