Becky and I would like you to meet Wyatt Fisher, husband and dad of four. He is highly qualified to write this guest post. Wyatt has an on-line Christian dating site! So we have the dating guru giving us advice on how to advise our teens when it comes to dating! Find out more about Wyatt in his bio below.
With faith, hope, and love,
Lori & Becky
There are many worries and concerns that accompany parenting, including your child’s grades, their peer influences, their online activity, etc. However, one of the major concerns as teens morph into young adulthood is “Who will my child date? Who will he or she marry?”
Unfortunately, many teens receive little to no guidance from their parents on the ideal person to pursue romantically and the red flags they should avoid. Therefore, becoming informed on this topic and intentionally sharing it with your teens can gird them up with wisdom that could save them a lifetime of heartache.
Soul-Mate Training Tips For Your Teens
The first recommendation for your teen is to date/marry someone who is also a believer. God tells us to become equally yoked for a variety of reasons, including it will foster our faith, allow us to raise children in a godly home, and make our relationship a testimony to others. Also, the more couples have in common usually the more successful their relationship becomes, especially on big issues like faith and worldview.
2. Faith in Action
As a continuation of the first point, encourage your son or daughter to pursue someone who puts their faith into action. For example, do they strive towards honoring God with the music they listen to, movies they watch, and websites they visit? Do they believe in preserving sex for marriage alone? Usually, the more personal their relationship is with Jesus, the more they will aim towards honoring Him with their choices. Moreover, the closer someone is with Christ, usually the more integrity they’ll have in their relationship with your son or daughter.
No family is perfect and all homes have dysfunction on some level. However, the greater the dysfunction, the more unhealthy the person usually is without counseling or divine healing. Therefore, encourage your son or daughter to pursue someone who has a warm, loving relationship with at least one of their parents and ideally both. The more secure their attachments are with their parents, the more likely they’ll be able to develop a secure attachment with your son or daughter as well.
Fourth, encourage your son or daughter to look at the other types of relationships the person has in their life. Are they connected with a group of friends with high integrity? Do they have a lot of friendships or are they a loner? What has their past dating relationships been like? Do they tend to stick with their friendships long-term or do they seem to change them often?Usually, the longer the relationships the person has had the better because it reflects they are able to connect well with others and remain loyal.
So, if you want to bless your teens in all areas of life, including their choices on who they date and eventually marry, start talking with them about the above points today so they can develop wisdom and discernment on who to pursue. For a complete list, please visit https://www.christiancrush.com/relationships/christian-soul-mate.html.
Those who are wise will shine like the brightness of the heavens,
and those who lead many to righteousness, like the stars for ever and ever.
Wyatt Fisher, Psy.D. is a believer, psychologist, and owner of Christian Crush. He’s passionate about developing the most trustworthy platform on the web for Christian singles to connect and develop God-honoring relationships.