We waited a long time to be parents. After bringing home our six children via foster adoption, I went into hyper “show them the world right now” mode. For some reason it never dawned on me that they are here to stay and that I don’t have to carry out every idea that I have ever had for them to experience in the next 12 months.
My anxiety level of taking them places, signing them up for things and exposing them to new things gets totally out of control sometimes.
Well, this summer was no different. I had plans! Vacations, events, activities, parties planned and the works. Things have not gone according to my plans at all. I was pretty upset about it until I started to see my kids entertain themselves. Kind of like we use to do as children before technology and over scheduled lives.
I fractured my heel five weeks before I am supposed to leave for Africa. I am completely immobile. This cut out most of the things we had planned if I am going to heal in time for my trip. So then our Wii broke followed by the iPad. The kids were then forced to get creative and find something to do. They get more tech time in the summers. Without even attempting to fix them, my husband put them away. What happened was amazing!
My kids have become some of the most creative and innovative kids I have ever met. They have built things, explored nature, rode bikes, dug in the mud, climbed trees, played in the sprinkler, wrote and directed their own plays, dismantled computers, started ant farms, grew gross cultures in petri dishes, done chemistry experiments and more. A regular, old fashioned summer! The best summer ever!
There are many things that we want our kids to experience. Many places and cultures we want them to be exposed to. Slow down. You have time. Allow your kids to get bored and watch their genius blossom.
It really is okay to not have every second of your summer planned and strategized.
These times are priceless. Sit back, watch, participate and enjoy.
But Martha was cumbered about much serving,
and came to him, and said,
Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone?
Bid her therefore that she help me.
And Jesus answered and said unto her,
Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:
But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part,
which shall not be taken away from her.
What part of parenting makes you anxious? Have you allowed God to give you another perspective in that area?
By Karla Marie Williams
Wife to Tom
Mom of 6
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Speaker, Writer, and Advocate for Children in Need of Forever Families