So…I got brave and decided to interview a dad of four regarding his thoughts, reflections, and advice regarding fatherhood.
Lori: What do you like the most about being a dad?
Tom: Oh boy. Oh man. I guess there are two answers or two parts to this question. What’s the most fun? I’d say doing outdoor activities with the whole family. And what’s the most satisfying? Working with you (me!) as a team and watching the kids grow up.
Lori: What has surprised you about being a dad? (I had no idea what he would say.)
Tom: How your love for your kids grows and how you never stop thinking about your kids as your kids…even when your kids become adults.
Lori: What are some of your Dad High Points?
Tom: The firsts: the first steps, loosing the first tooth, riding a bike, the first win in a sporting event, the first time skiing. It’s equally as rewarding watching the kids master certain things and sharing in their excitement.
Lori: Is there anything you would do differently?
Tom: Oh…tons of things! But making mistakes is part of the process. Then we ask for and model forgiveness and teach the kids to do the same.
Lori: What advice would you have for a young dad?
Tom: I guess when I first became a dad, I didn’t realize how powerful prayer is. I’d also say be the spiritual leader of the family and daily model the worshiping of our Lord, not just on Sunday.
Lori: How can wives best support their husbands? (Pretty daring question, don’t you think?)
Tom: The respect thing is huge for guys. Interject humor, love, and laughter into life. That’s really positive.
Lori: Anything else you’d like to add?
Tom: I’ve learned family relationships require a lot of give and take. Giving is way more important than receiving.
I hope you all had a wonderful Father’s Day. Take a leap and ask your guy the same questions. Some of his answers may surprise you.
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As a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him.
Psalm 103: 13
By Lori Wildenberg
Co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
Wife to Tom, Mom of four