I know my Thanksgiving table won’t look like a magazine spread.
How can so many of my friends travel to so many exotic places?
My kids’ birthday parties never look like the parties I see on Pinterest.
I cannot possibly decorate cookies like that for Christmas!
Moms, my advice to the women in the class mentioned earlier and to you is to be realistic. Usually only the best makes it to Facebook, the wonderful trips, the darling children and the thoughtful husband who remembered the wedding anniversary. Life hardships are typically not posted. Pinterest has the best of the best pinned up for the world to see. Be realistic of your own desires and expectations. Create boundaries for yourself.
- No one posts epic failures. Or even small failures. The kid party that was a disaster, the Christmas cookies that nobody would eat, the overcooked turkey.
- Nobody is perfect. Give yourself a break. Replicating Pinterest ideas is not a mandate for a good mommy award. Pictures can be photo shopped. Just like the models in magazines, the pictures can be altered and enhanced for perfection. Time is a consideration. What are you capable of at this point in time? Ideas shared on social media are often the result of hours spent on a project.
- The finished product may be the result of multiples times to get it right. That one thing a friend keeps pinning and posting may be her one thing. The beautiful garden shots? Her home may be a mess. The gorgeous Christmas cards? Her cookies may be all store-bought. The beautifully decorated home? Her way of controlling an out of control life. We don’t know what’s behind each pin or post.
- Drop the comparisons. There are a few exceptional people out there that seem to do it all. Remind yourself, you are God’s child, precious in His sight made perfectly just as you are with your very own gifts and talents. Expound on what you do well!
Don’t get me wrong. I like social media. Facebook is a great way to stay connected to friends and family. I enjoy liking friends exploits and adventures, cute kids and grandchildren, and personal accomplishments. There are lots of interesting websites, do-able ideas, and yummy recipes on Pinterest.
Pin and post to your heart’s content. Be happy for those with great family shots, vacation photos and party ideas. Pick and choose what you will replicate or tweak from Pinterest to suit your needs and the needs of your family. Like and comment on your family and friend’s great adventures.
But keep this fact in your heart…God has made you perfectly just the way you are and He has great plans for you. You don’t need to be perfect or compare your efforts with others on Facebook or Pinterest for Him! God loves you just the way you are.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Psalm 139:14 ESV
How do you feel about social media?
By Becky Danielson
Wife to Scott, mom of two
Licensed Parent & Family Educator
Co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
Co-author of The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series
Raising Little Kids with Big Love and
Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love
both with Study Guides
Register for the 2015 HeartCORe Conference
on November 14
at Christ Presbyterian Church in Edina, MN
Becky and five other members of the 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team will be speaking on CORe topics of faith, parenting, education, and relationships. The $25.00 registration fee includes keynotes, breakouts, lunch and a copy of Raising Little Kids with Big Love OR Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love along with the Study Guide.
Pastors and lay leaders, join Becky and Lori for a complimentary breakfast and learn more about using the 1 Corinthians 13 Parent series for large group, small group, and mentoring in your church.