It was during my daughter’s teenage years when I was still trying to figure out how to instill healthy values in her, how to enforce the rules in our home, and how to be reasonable, not legalistic, when it came to listening to her, even if what she wanted to do or wear was not my personal preference.
So many times I found myself saying, “I’m still trying to figure this out. I’ve never been a mom to a teenager before.”
Now THAT must have given her an extra dose of confidence in me!
Looking back on those years now, Dana wasn’t really a challenge at all. I was just trying to be the best mom I could and felt like I was failing through most of it.
Oh, how I wish I knew back then what I know now. Now that my Dana is 22 years old and has turned into quite a lovely lady, I realize that half of what freaked me out wasn’t so important in the long run. I’m also convinced today that God had appointed me to be her mother because He knew how desperately I’d need to depend on Him to get me through. And God was faithful every step of the way.
Parenting can be scary when we see our children make choices we wouldn’t have made, when they start walking a path that looks uncertain to us, or when they no longer want our opinion or watchful eye on them. We struggle through the memory of them clinging to our legs, only to see them running with all their might to get away from our arms. And yet…the God who made you mother – or father — of each of your children didn’t make a mistake. He knew exactly what you were capable — and incapable — of. And He stands ready to be your Right Hand.
In Psalm 16:8, David the Psalmist said, “I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”
God is at your right hand, too, whispering wisdom, offering comfort, and providing peace just when you need it. And for those times you don’t feel qualified? Call upon your Right Hand Man.
When you are depending on God, to get through whatever lies ahead in parenting, God has you right where He wants you to be.
How do you need God as your Right Hand Man, during this stage of parenting?
By Cindi McMenamin
Wife to Hugh, Mom of 1 grown daughter
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Women’s Speaker, Author of When a Mom Inspires Her Daughter and 14 other books.