I grew up in a time when people were silent about their pain and problems. The uncomfortable subjects that adults didn’t want to address they simply replied: You don’t need to know about that right now or they answered your question with a question: Why are you asking me that? I determined that I wouldn’t be that type of parent and I wasn’t. However, now that I’m almost 50 years old and I’m a grandparent who’s parenting, I find myself wondering how to properly address the issues of today’s society that my grandchildren face in friendships and in school. Children have access to tablets, cell phones, and games of all sorts that were not around when I was raising children. Therefore, kids are exposed to so much more. The enemy would love to bring confusion and destruction to children and it’s our responsibility to be in the middle of him and them—in other words, be present, attentive and involved.
Three Points to Consider in Facing the Generational Gap
1. Remember that as society changes, biblical truths and promises do not. Your role is to love, teach, discipline, nurture and guide your grandchild in truth not in what society calls truth.
2. Be willing to have the difficult conversations. The era of avoidance is over. Sweeping anything under the rug is dangerous. Be attentive to your grandchildren—to what they are singing, saying, or listening to. Ask questions. Be involved. You’ve lived long enough to have experienced situations that you can hopefully shed light on (age appropriately) to assist them in making right choices.
3. You are important to their development. The Bible lets us know that both Eunice, the mother, and Lois, the grandmother of Timothy, impacted his life in such a way that as a young man he was ready for service under the careful teaching of the Apostle Paul. Your impact is important to their spiritual, academic, relational, social, and financial development. Use your years of maturity to impart wisdom to them. It will secure their future.
For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you,
which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice,
and I am sure that it is in you as well.
2 Timothy 1:5 NASB
Are you temporarily or permanently the primary influence on the life of your grandchild? In what ways are you facing the generational gap in parenting your grandchildren?
By Pastor Lisa Shaw
Wife to Pastor Peter, Grandma to 2 sisters
1C13P team member, Bible Teacher, Speaker, Radio Host, Mentor/Coach
Author of You Are Beautiful in God’s Eyes
Founder of the teaching ministry: Lisa Shaw Cares
The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series: Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love and their companion Study Guides, are formally launched this month. We are sharing the LOVE with over $400.00 worth of give-aways: books, jewelry, and one-on-one parent coaching with either Lori Wildenberg or Becky Danielson, both licensed parent and family educators. To be eligible for the gifts, comment on one or more of the 1C13P blog posts during the month of February. Winners will be randomly drawn each Friday and notified via email.