Friends (especially our dad readers),
We have the pleasure of hearing from author, Tim Shoemaker, today on being the husband and hero in your family. Tim’s book, Super Husband, Super Dad: You Can Be the Hero Your Family Needs, has been recently released (see more below). Becky and I met Tim at a writers conference. He has a huge heart for people and for the Lord. We are blessed to have him as our guest today.
~Lori & Becky
Remember playing “Red Rover” as a kid? Two teams would face off against each other with maybe forty feet separating them. You stood shoulder to shoulder with the others in your team, held hands, and stretched out to form a human chain. An impenetrable wall.
“Red rover, red rover, let ________________ come over.” Someone from your team would challenge a member of the opposing side to break through your line. The “enemy” eyed each member of your team, looking for the weakest link. If that opponent failed, they would become part of your team. If they succeeded, they’d go back to their own team—with two prisoners. The two whose grip he broke.
You wiped sweaty hands on your jeans and took a fresh grip on the hands of the teammates on either side of you. There was no way you wanted to be taken prisoner.
It’s amazing how some games we played as a kid hold life lessons for us today. As husbands, we’re to cling to God with one hand, and to our wife and kids with the other. We have an enemy who is constantly looking for a weak link. An easy spot to penetrate. Break through. The enemy sends his best family-busters to do the job. Complacency. Busyness. Pride. Selfishness. Often instead of strengthening our grip, we’re busy scrolling through our phone or texting someone.
How can we strengthen our grip on God and our wife?
1. Skip the devotional. It’s fine to read little devotional thoughts in addition to your daily Bible reading—but don’t think you can substitute time in the Word with a little two-minute devotional. How strong will your relationship with God get by simply reading about what others have learned in the Word? Read it yourself.
2. Bring a pen to church. We know we remember things better when we write them down. So if you don’t take notes during a sermon, what are you saying? “I’m not that interested in remembering this stuff.”
3. Lose the attitude. Had a tough day? Don’t take it out on your wife and kids. You’re the man. You set the tone. Talk nice. Be kind and caring.
4. Take your wife on a date. Every week if possible. Don’t wait for a special occasion. Are you alive? That’s enough reason to celebrate right there. Take her out. Turn off the phone. Hold her hand. Listen to her. Make it fun.
Red Rover. Some of the best line-busters were the kids who suddenly veered off at the last second to target a different spot. Two people who weren’t expecting it. Two people who had relaxed. Our enemy does the same thing. He tries to catch us off guard. When we’re coasting. Don’t underestimate him.
How can you get a fresh grip on God, and on your wife and kids… starting today?
Avoid what is evil. Cling to what is good.
Tim Shoemaker is the author of eleven books and speaks at conferences and schools around the country. He has been happily married for over thirty years to Cheryl, his high school sweetheart. He has three grown sons, two daughter-in-laws, and three grandkids. He has worked with youth on a volunteer basis for over twenty years and is active in church leadership. His Code of Silence fiction series for middle grade readers makes a great summer read. And he helps men be the hero their family needs with his latest book, Super Husband, Super Dad: You Can Be the Hero Your Family Needs. Read more about Tim on his website, Mashed Tomatoes and Other Life Lessons.