I remember the first time I was truly excited about what I was learning in school. Unfortunately it wasn’t until my senior year in high school, Psychology 101. My perception of learning and reading changed from drudgery to passion and curiosity.
This passion and love of learning has continued in many areas of my life. I have gone on to study new musical instruments, new languages, and even new sports. I love learning new things about parenting so I can be a better mother. However, in the marriage arena, my attitude was to only learn tips and strategies to teach to other couples.
Recently, Peter and I were invited to participate in a marriage enrichment experience. We weren’t asked to teach or lead anything. It was an opportunity to be fed, encouraged, and challenged in our own marriage. What a gift this time was to us. 2012 brought a lot of unexpected changes to our family. Having this time together was such a blessing.
Just like professional teachers or doctors need continuing education, I need to continue to learn new ways to improve my marriage and then be sure to apply what I learn. Nicholas Kirsch, PhD, a couples therapist in Bethesda, MD, said this so well in April, 2013 issue of the Monitor. “So many people do lifelong training in so many things—if you’re a golf enthusiast you go to the driving range a couples times a week. If you’re a lawyer, you take continuing education. And somehow there’s this belief that we don’t have to work at learning how to be a couple. It should just come naturally. That to me is just very backwards.”
What are some ways you can learn to be a better couple? Look to your church for marriage enrichment opportunities. Check out www.10greatdates.org for easy fun ways to grow in your marriage. Taking a proactive approach in your marriage will be worth the investment of time and resources. Tweet about this post!
By Heather Larson, speaker, author, and life coach at Bridgewell Coaching.