No one wants to admit they love themselves. After all, loving yourself makes you selfish and narcissistic. Yet, let’s be honest. The thought that runs through my mind each morning is, “What do I need to do today?”
Even though this question may be about serving or helping others…its still about me! What about me?! I wonder what kind of impact it would make in my marriage today if I asked my husband, Peter, “What do you need today?” Or even better yet, “How can I pray for you today?”
I just finished a terribly busy season of life. I was homeschooling my three kids, coaching couples, and writing a book. There were days I wasn’t sure how to get it all accomplished with dinner on the table, too! On those days, the sweetest thing my husband, Peter, could do was just simply ask, “How can I help you today?” Even if there wasn’t something I could take off my plate for him to do, I knew I wasn’t alone! My teammate was willing to help.
Help comes in all shapes and forms from setting the table and sharing carpool duties to helping with homework and doing the laundry. When your spouse willingly steps into the chaos, it’s wonderful support. Another great way to love one another is through prayer.
We all spend time praying for ourselves, which is good. God wants to hear the desires of the heart and the pleas for His guidance. Stepping into the lives of the ones we love through prayer allows us to take an active role in their lives. Intercessory prayer is powerful. And knowing your spouse is praying specifically for your concerns strengthens the marital relationship.
Asking others what they need each day, physically, emotionally, and spiritually is a thoughtful way to practice the Great Commandment, loving others as we love ourselves (Matthew 22:37-39). Try it and see for yourself!
“’Love the Lord your God with all your heart
and with all your soul and with all your mind.’
This is the first and greatest commandment.
And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
By Heather Larson, M.A.
Wife to Peter, Mom of three
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Associate Director of 10 Great Dates