As the holidays approach, traditions and extended family members come to mind more frequently. Sometimes a bit of a heartache is felt when separated by long distances. How can many of us, who don’t live close to our extended family, be a part of their lives?
I met the Ashtons when they were in their seventies. Every month they sent their nine-year-old nephew Tim, twenty dollars with the following recommendations: Give 10% to church or some other ministry, use 10% to do something nice for a family member or friend, save a third 10% for your future education. With the remaining 70% buy or save for something you need or want.
Tim was learning how to save, share, and spend his money wisely.
When Tim wrote back and told the Ashton’s how he used the money, they would send him another twenty dollars the next month. Mrs. Ashton showed me two binders filled with letters from Tim! Together we read how he had given money to his church, to feed the hungry, to clothe the poor, and to help build a chapel at his school.
Here is the amazing part of the Ashtons’ story… they live in Arizona. Tim lives in Oregon.
The Ashtons example personally impacted my family. I told my Florida mom their story. She decided to do the same thing with my son and daughter. Grand-mom started sending my kids ten dollars every month, using the Ashtons’ formula of 10%, 10%, 10%, and 70%. Each month, Grand-mom would write her Colorado grandchildren a letter that contained the cash and receive a letter in return. The relationships grew and a better understanding of how to use money was gained.
Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, serving as overseers-not because must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not greedy for money,
…but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you,
but being examples to the flock.
1 Peter 5:2-3
How could you use the Ashtons’ idea with your own kids?
By Kirk Weaver
Husband to Trudi, Father of 2
1C13P Team Member, Founder Family Time Training