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The clutter that I constantly battle is the clutter of the mind. I continually run through lists in my mind of things I need to accomplish. When I had 4 children, a job, home, homeschooling and ministry to manage, I would often tell my kids, “The folders in my brain are full, please don’t expect me to remember what you are responsible for because if you give me that thing to take care of something else will be forgotten that is already in there.” Therefore as they got older, they began to take more and more responsibility for their own schedules.
During the first years after my divorce; much of my energy was focused on learning about myself. I wanted to learn how to be the best mom and woman I could be. Since I had gotten married at a young age, I had never taken the time to learn about myself. All of my adult life had been focused on being wife and mother and I had never explored the heart of God and who He made me to be. The journey included a lot of ‘trial and error’. Learning how to de-clutter my mind was an important part of that journey for us all. I liked order and things picked up at the end of the day. I didn’t want to wake up to dirty dishes in the sink…I wanted to start my days with things in order. It took me a few years to determine this, and a lot of stress-filled days and weeks to be able to appreciate that this was a value of mine and it was important.
In order to stay de-cluttered in my mind, I had to find ways to manage daily chores like dinner, dishes, and laundry. Determining my values in each of these areas was the first important task. I personally had a value of having dinner at the table each night as a family and making sure my kids ate at least one healthy meal a day. I also had a value of keeping clean underwear in the drawers and dirty dishes off the counter. So I had to find ways to keep order in these areas so that my mind would not be consumed managing these daily duties.
Since managing mealtime was a high priority for me, I utilized different methods to maintain order in my brain:
- I would cook for the week, or month; engaging the kids in my cooking days and grocery shopping.
- In busier seasons of life, I would just write down menu ideas based on what we had in the pantry or freezer. This alleviated my need for looking every day at what we had and spending my precious time in the mornings figuring it all out. I could just pick one!
- As the kids grew, they began to take on the responsibility of dinner preparation one night a week.
De-cluttering produces peace. Peaceful homes give space for healthy relationships. It is important to determine where the areas of clutter are in our lives; ask the Father for creative ways to de-clutter. He wants us to make a place for Him to dwell in our minds, emotions and homes so He will help, if we ask. We are told that He generously gives wisdom to those who ask.
Spring is a great time to open the windows of our heart, mind, emotions and home and let the breath of God come in and clean out cobwebs.
But if any of you lacks wisdom,let him ask of God,
who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
How do you declutter your mind to bring peace to yourself and your family?
By Misty Honnold
Mother of 2 adult girls, 2 adult sons & 2 amazing son-in-laws (married to daughters)
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Executive Director and Founder of The Single MOM KC
Hostess of Mocha Moments For The Single MOM
Meet Misty at the 2016 HeartCORe Family Conference
in Kansas City April 30!