Well, not really weird, even though that is how you both may feel sometimes. Maybe more like different or uniquely challenged. I have a daughter with ADHD who is always louder and more hyper—different—than other children. I also have a daughter with an anxiety disorder who has struggled greatly as the consequences of her actions have landed her in the legal arena. You haven’t lived until your child has their own probation officer. Still, it’s a different experience. I spoke to a friend today whose son was recently diagnosed with autism. They’ve had to make tough decisions to hold him back a grade, change his school, and adjust the sports he can participate in. All things that make them different than the other kids which in turn can make them feel different from other families.
When your child is different other kids don’t always want to be friends with them.
When your child is different other parents don’t really know what to say to you.
When your child is different you sometimes wonder if you (and your child) drew the short straw because life just seems harder.
I get it.
But this is what I know to be true: if your child is offbeat, atypical or even a little weird they are one of the lucky ones.
They will experience weakness and need God’s strength.
They will experience loneliness and need God’s presence.
They will experience limitations and need God’s possibilities.
They will experience pain and need God’s comfort.
They will experience a need for God that most children won’t ever know. And need gives us the opportunity for deeper knowledge and intimacy with God. Need, found in the weirdness of our lives, is the absolute best thing that could ever happen to us.
Great blessings belong to those who know they are spiritually in need.
God’s kingdom belongs to them.
By Dale Skram
Mom of four daughters
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
real.life.speaker, real.faith.writer, and real.life.coach
Download Dale’s interview with Jenny Dean Schmidt, Moms Who Say, “I’m Fine” When They’re Not… on ChannelMom. Both Dale and Jenny are members of the 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting team. Click HERE to read more about their ministries.