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“When her parents discovered she was pregnant, they kicked her out.”
This single mom has defied the odds. She is raising her child, going to college, and working to support the two of them.
I don’t know the details of this woman’s story. I have no clue as to the relationship she had or has with her parents. I don’t know all the times of trouble that led up to this separation.
I do know a number of families in a similar situation who chose to do life differently. They chose to support their unwed pregnant daughter and help her in her time of need. Three of the girls kept their babies. All three are now married (not to the baby daddy), another girl miscarried (now married with kids), and a fifth made an open adoption plan.
During the most difficult time in their life, each young mom knew her parents were there for her. Each woman knew she could count on her parents to help stabilize the shaky ground. All girls are now thriving.
As daughter’s of Eve and sons of Adam, we make decisions that are not in our best interest, ones that are not God’s best for us.
Humans have a wandering propensity.
Some young people stray due to an unwed pregnancy, sexual sin, porn, substance abuse, or a rejection of faith. When we have a prodigal, sometimes we are to let ’em go (see Luke 15) and other times we are to chase after our lost sheep (see Luke 15).
Either way, we need to keep the bridge built so our prodigal is able to return.
I have a child who, for a season, stepped away from the family. It was the most painful thing I have ever endured. There were times I chased her down like the shepherd and other times I waited like the dad.
I cried. I prayed.
I was a mess. I was weak.
God was strong.
Praise God, He brought her back to us.
I am thankful I kept the drawbridge down so she could cross it.
If your young person has taken a detour from the way in which he should go, keep the bridge open. Don’t destroy it, build it. Construct it with grace, humility, mercy, forgiveness, honesty, and truth. All qualities of unconditional love.
Build it and yes…they will come.
“Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.”
Luke 15:6b (NIV)
If you are interested, click here to listen to an archived radio broadcast where I describe our family’s struggle. You may find some comfort here. Note: There are two segments. 1 and 2, May 5th, 2015 and May 6th, 2015 respectively.
By Lori Wildenberg
Wife to Tom, mom of four
Co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
Co-author (with Becky Danielson) of three parenting books.
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The chapter Choosing Goodness in Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love contains ways to pray for your wandering young person.