When Peter and I started dating, I was not very athletic. I didn’t run, bike, golf, or rollerblade, but Peter made sure I could do all of these in order to pass the dating test. The first birthday I celebrated while dating Peter I bought a mountain bike. He made it a birthday week of gifts by giving me one bike accessory a day for an entire week. At the end of the week, we were ready for our first biking adventure.
Peter took me to a trail near his home in Lakeville. It was late July. He was leading the way through a wooded trail when I realized there seemed to be more brush than trail that we were biking through previously. Not wanting to offend, I inquired politely if perhaps we had lost the trail. He assured me that all was well. As we pursued the “trail” a swarm of biting flies came out of the woods. The only way to avoid getting bitten was to keep pedaling faster than the flies.
It wasn’t long after the appearance of the flies and the frantic pedaling that Peter was willing to admit, we were lost! There was no going back through the flies and the brush. All we could do was keep pedaling forward. There were times on the bike ride when I was hot, tired, and frustrated. I wanted to throw the bike down and be finished with the ride. If I had done that, I would still be lost in the woods. The only way through was to keep pedaling!
It occurred to me yesterday on our 18th anniversary that a good marriage requires a “keep pedaling” attitude. We’ve had some periods where we could see we were heading off the trail. Now as a wife, I’m more confident to ask sooner if we might be heading off track. Peter is also willing to admit he may need some help, too. We’ve also had some times when it seems the swarm of biting flies is after us. The best way to get through these times is to keep pedaling forward. Tweet about Heather’s post!
To keep pedaling together as a team requires teamwork and perseverance. How can you work as a team in your marriage? How can you use perseverance to get through whatever “biting fly” has come your way?
And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations,
knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance;
and perseverance, proven character;
and proven character, hope;
and hope does not disappoint,
because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts
through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
By Heather Larson
Wife to Peter, Mom of 3
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member, BridgeWell Coaching, Associate Director of 10 Great Dates