Walking down the halls of the junior high school with my kids can bring me right back to junior high myself! The fears, the insecurities. Just one warm and genuine person can change all of that in an instant. Amongst the nervous kids, confused parents, one person can make you feel like the most important person in world or at least in the hall. They have a posture that let’s you know, “It’s not about me, it’s about you.”
These individuals look you in the eye, ask questions and tune in to what you are saying even when all kinds of things may be going on around you both. They listen. Really listen. Their response is one of encouragement and leaves you feeling better then you did before you spoke with them. They don’t quickly turn the conversation back to themselves or point out how they may have handled something different or better. These people have a gift. They know it’s not all about them.
I think if Jesus were walking down the junior high halls he would have this same attitude. He would see the individuals and talk and listen with them this way. Instead a sea of nerves and confusion, he would see each person and want to let them know they are loved. They are valuable.
How would my day be different starting in my own home if my focus changed from being about me to being about others? Instead of my list, my agenda running through my head, I would pay attention to the people around me. I would focus while they are speaking. I would ask questions. Not the “Why?” “What were you thinking?!” questions, but the curious, “Will you tell me more?” kind of questions. And then I would listen. Really listen. My response would be one of encouragement. Not fluff, but genuine, I listened and believe you are valuable and worthy of love encouragement.
Starting with this new attitude in my home may be challenging enough for me today. Someday, I can take this attitude and posture out of the house, maybe to the mall, the grocery store, my church and even the junior high halls.
All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another,
because, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”
1 Peter 5:5b
Where will you start using a Jesus attitude today?
By Heather Larson, M.A.
Wife to Peter
Mom of three
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Associate Director of 10 Great Dates