You know what? It’s still a little weird to hear those words but I’m getting used to it!
We may not always show it, but men want to be affirmed, they need to be affirmed.
The Bible is full of examples of one man pouring into another: Elijah and Elisha, Paul, Barnabas, and Timothy, and of course, Jesus and the disciples. All of these relationships had tremendous impact in accomplishing God’s purposes.
Recreating our own versions of male identity and relationships can have devastating consequences.
We now live in a society where there is a full-blown assault on men and manhood.
Here are 3 examples of the assault on men:
- The lie that men should always be “tough” and “suck it up” when it comes to expressing our emotions and healing in a healthy way. Failure to do so can push a man into depression and possibly reckless behavior.
- Although it is getting a little better, the media still tends to portray men (especially dads) as weak or bumbling fools instead of the God-ordained heads of their households they are designed to be.
- As we have seen increasingly too much lately, the definition of “gender” is being smeared further from the truth and more into a neutral or “perceived” state.
The point is this, our nation desperately needs men to rise up as the husbands and fathers God has called us to be.
For some, that is a blessing that has been passed on through family lineage and is still going strong today. For others, it is a foreign identity and they are in need of someone to invest in them to help guide them along the way.
Whatever side you may be on, there is an action we can all take. If you have been blessed with a strong foundation (whether you were born into it or learned along the way), then please be on the lookout for opportunities to mentor another man. And for you husbands and fathers who may not be pulling your weight as you should, please make an effort to humble yourself and take the necessary steps to grow.
Our decisions to do these things now will help to reap eternal dividends for our wives and children for generations to come.
Men, are you currently investing in or allowing someone to invest in you as a husband and father?
Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17 (NASB)
By Matt Haviland
Dad of one daughter
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of A Father’s Walk
Author of A Father’s Walk: A Christian-Based Resource for Single Fathers,
co-author of The Daddy Gap