Let me introduce you to Jameson “Jim” Bosma. A good man who was married to his wife Barb for over 60 years before he passed in 2013. Jameson worked hard for decades at multiple jobs and was a good husband who frugally saved. He was such a blessing to his five children: Ginny, Doug, David, Laurie, and Debbie.
Jim was my wife’s grandpa and is still talked about regularly around the dining room table. Yet, I have never met Grandpa Jim – he passed a couple years before my wife and I began to date. Despite never having a single conversation with him, Jim continues to have a profound impact in my life today because of the values and legacy he instilled into his children and grandchildren.
I am very open about the type of home in which I grew up and the sinful patterns I inherited. I followed worldly pleasures for the first 30 years of my life; becoming a father myself along the way. Though my dad was a good man, I was never spiritually fathered by him. He was funny and taught me some things along the way, but was really more a play buddy than a dad.
I married my wife in 2015. Compared to me, she comes from about as far in the opposite direction of an upbringing as you can imagine! My parents were never married–hers have been married 35 years. She was raised in the church–I was not. Her family embraces times together–mine does it more out of obligation.
What really struck me early on was the fact that my father-in-law, David, tells me he loves me more in a two or three month period than my dad said in 40 years. Dave tells me he is proud of me. He invests in me and cares about what I am doing in life. He is the father I never had. When I brought this to his attention some time ago he immediately pointed back to his father, Jim. He credits his dad with instilling godly traits and character into him – values that are now being passed into myself and my family. I will meet Grandpa Jim on the other side of eternity someday. Until then, I am being blessed through the legacy he left behind; one I pray only grows stronger as I pour into my own family too.
A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children
Proverbs 13:22 (NKJV)
What sort of “inheritance” are you leaving now for your family and for generations to come?
By Matt Haviland
Husband to Christy
Dad of one daughter
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of A Father’s Walk
Co-author of The Daddy Gap
Meet Matt Haviland along with Misty Honnold, Lori Wildenberg, and Becky Danielson at the 2017 Kansas City HeartCORe Single Parent Conference January 21. Click HERE for more information and to register.
The HeartCORe Single Parent Conference will inspire and encourage you to be the best mom or dad you can be during these challenging times. Be blessed by the messages given by single parent experts, Misty Honnold (Single Mom KC) and Matt Haviland (A Father’s Walk Single Dad Ministry). Culturally relevant material presented by Lori Wildenberg and Becky Danielson, co-founders 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting, will arm you with the current cutting edge information for families.