For a person who readily admits I love learning new things sometimes the statement, “I don’t know my way” or “I don’t know how to…” is humbling. Lately, I’m discovering the importance of having a “learning” attitude in my relationships too.
It’s easy to admit I am learning about my family’s new community. While finding my way around Colorado, I appreciated having Minnesota license plates on my car. It bought me a bit of grace as I tried to merge lanes at the last minute or found myself in the right lane for a left hand turn. People could see I was new around here and most of the time offered grace rather than a honk from behind.
Relationships are new too. I’m learning about my new friend’s family, childhood, likes and dislikes, and about what’s important to her. I find myself asking a lot of questions and really listening to this person, making me curious and wanting to get to know her better.
What’s been most interesting to me is to see how important it is to keep learning about the people who are in my life day in and day out, especially, my husband and kids. Everyday, I know I am changing and growing, trying new things and so is my family. They have many interests to share and explore with me.
It’s easy for me to think, “Oh, I’ve been married for 18 years, what else is there for me to learn?” This is a slippery slope! When I stop studying Peter, I stop being curious about who he is and who he is becoming, I run the risk of growing apart from him. I’ve heard of couples who wake up next to one another one day and realize they no longer know one another. I don’t want that to be us!
My desire is to always learn, be curious, and grow in my relationships. One question that I have found powerful is to ask my husband or children, “How can I pray for you today?” This question usually gets right to the heart of what is going on in Peter or the kids.
What questions can you ask your family? How can you adapt a “learning attitude” in your family? I promise, there are things to learn if you take the time to ask! Tweet about Heather’s post!
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.
By Heather Larson
Wife to Peter, Mom of 3
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member, BridgeWell Coaching, Associate Director of 10 Great Dates