Is your spouse your best friend? If so, you’re on your way to having a great marriage. Surveys reveal that at least 80 percent of couples in successful long-term marriages say they are best friends. In our own survey of long-term marriages, we discovered that as the years go by, the friendship factor becomes even more important.
Think about it. Have you ever met a couple on the way to the divorce court who were best friends and having fun together? We haven’t! So if being friends with your spouse is so important, what can you do today to build your friendship as husband and wife?
One of the best ways to deepen your friendship with your spouse is to spend time together, but you need to be intentional about it or it just won’t happen! So how can you be proactive and find time together that you will both enjoy? husband and wife
Here’s a tip. Guys tend to value doing things together with friends, while gals tend to value talking together with their friends. For that reason, shared activities and regular times to talk go hand-in-hand, allowing the friendship needs of each spouse to be met. So what can you do together? Let’s us help you brainstorm. husband and wife
From time to time we ask our 10 Great Dates® seminar participants how they are building their friendship. Here are some of their responses. Note that all include talking and doing something together!
- “We like to take the back roads, get lost, and then find our way home again.”
- “We work out together at the local fitness club.” husband and wife
- “We like to cook together. Lately, we’ve been learning to cook Chinese.”
- “We walk around the soccer field while our son practices soccer.”
- “We learned to sail together.”
- “We do organic gardening.” husband and wife
- “On Saturday morning we have a standing date to run errands together.”husband and wife
Take some time now to make your own list of friendship enhancing activities. Start by listing things you’ve done in the past that built your friendship. Then brainstorm things you would like to do in the future. Remember to pick activities that include both talking and doing. husband and wife
Now choose one activity to do this week. Finding and nurturing shared interest and activities will nurture your friendship as husband and wife. And nurturing your friendship in marriage will help you stick together–closer than a brother!
There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
By David & Claudia Arp
Parents of 3
Grandparents of 10
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Members
Founders of Marriage Alive and 10 Great Dates
Authors of many great books to enrich your relationship!
Adapted from the Arps’ new devotional, Day Starters for Couples – 45 Devotions from God’s Heart to Yours.
Copyright ©2016 by David & Claudia Arp, FaithHappening Publishers (FaithHappenings.com).
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