We have a guest blogger today, mom and author, Lindsey Bell. Her new book, Searching for Sanity: 52 Insights from the Parents of the Bible, is scheduled to be released this month! The timing of her post with the very cold winter we have had across the country is perfect!
With faith, hope, and love,
Lori & Becky
Sometimes as a stay-at-home parent, I feel trapped.
I hate admitting that, but it’s the truth. I especially felt this way when my boys were infants. It was so hard to do even the simplest of things. The hassle of carrying around a heavy car seat combined with the never-ending fear of a meltdown caused me to dread going anywhere. Sometimes, it was just easier to stay home.
This created quite a bit of loneliness in the first few years. I finally learned some tricks to combat loneliness as a stay-at-home-parent, and I’m honored to share them with you today.
1. Maintain perspective.
On those days when you feel like you can’t escape the monotony of your life, remember in just a few short years, life won’t be as difficult. It won’t always be so hard to run errands. You won’t always be dictated by naptime.
2. Get involved.
As hard as it might be to leave the house, do it anyway. Get involved with a group at your church or gym. Sign your child up for a sport’s team or dance or gymnastics class. Each of these will give you a chance to meet other parents who, in all likelihood, are just as hungry for relationships as you are.
3. Reach out.
It’s so easy to blame other people for our loneliness. And, honestly, maybe other people should reach out to us more. But we can’t control other people. We can only control ourselves. So make an effort with another parent. Reach out to others instead of waiting for them to reach out to you. Could they reject you? Sure. But they could also accept you and become a close friend. You’ll never know until you try.
4. Change your atmosphere.
Sometimes all it takes to lighten your mood is a change of atmosphere. Take your little one to the park or for a walk, go to the mall, or go for a drive.
5. Let God fill the voids in your heart.
God made us for relationships with each other, but even more than that, He made us for relationship with Him. In college one of my professors said there is a God-sized hole in each of our hearts. We can try to fill it with other things or relationships, but these things won’t ever “fit.” Only God can fill this hole in our lives. I think that’s why in Matthew 6:33, Jesus challenged us to seek God first: “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” So today, in the midst of whatever your day holds, seek Him.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness,
and all these things will be given to you as well.
Let’s Talk: What other tips would you add to this list?
Lindsey Bell is the author of Searching for Sanity: 52 Insights from the Parents of the Bible, a parenting devotional released January 2014!
She’s also a stay-at-home mother of two boys, a minister’s wife, an avid reader, a blogger, and chocolate lover.
You can find her online at www.lindsey-bell.com.
Special Note: Lindsey is giving away a ton of free stuff (books, gift cards, and more) to celebrate the launch of Searching for Sanity. Visit her blog, www.lindsey-bell.com, this week for more information.
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