In our home, we live by these rules. They continue to develop, as the kids grow older and we want to continue to always ensure they are firmly planted on the ground of faith and fulfillment. There are significant values that we want to instill in our kids, our marriage and in our family. They create the core of who we are, and how we live our lives…
Respect: In our home, everyone is treated with respect. We honor each other’s feelings and opinions and we extend that respect to all people outside of our family as well. Most of all, we must respect ourselves. We must make decisions that honor who we are and realize our potential and acknowledge our weaknesses. We must always make efforts to remember that each person is worthy of love, including ourselves.
Honesty: In our home, everyone must be honest. It is so easy to bend the truth or give little white lies…and kids can fall quickly into the spell of deceit. We learn that lying in any form is both disrespectful and dishonoring to ourselves, the ones we lie to, and to God. Truth is necessary, always. God calls us to be truthful in everything. Even when it’s difficult and it may get us into trouble. No matter what the situation, being honest will always be the right decision.
Grace: We must pour grace on each other, and on all of those in our lives. Forgiveness is essential and as we are promised the same from our Heavenly Father, so we too need to extend His Grace to all. This is an ongoing lesson in love and sacrifice, as we all need grace. Although we teach our children about consequences we also impart on them the meaning of forgiveness. Grace binds us together deeper in open communication and love.
Responsibility: We are responsible for our actions, our decisions, our words, and our thoughts. My children have chores in keeping with our home and roles in our family that practice ongoing responsibility. Members of our house are responsible for cleaning up after themselves, taking good care of their things, and following through on schoolwork, and other projects that have been given. We run a tight ship of responsibilities in this house. There are expectations planted firmly in our every day family life, and our children must develop the ability to follow through consistently. Being responsible is imperative to live a successful life outside of our home. We must all be sure to act responsibly everywhere we go, and follow through on our word. The world outside our walls has expectations and we not only practice living responsibly in front of our kids, we expect the same from them in all aspects of their life.
Love is sacrificial: We want our children to learn the true art of loving another through grace and respect and ultimately sacrifice. To love each other, we extend ourselves to serve and making efforts to understanding who they are and what they need. We love each other through difficult decisions, and tough moments. We stretch beyond our own opinions and needs to care for another. We offer compassion and support while we acknowledge each other’s feelings and allow them to have a voice. Love is not easy. It gives when we don’t want to give. It is generous and unconditional and challenges us to cling to God’s authority in how to love one another.
Faith: In our home, God is first. We pray regularly, and seek His Will in everything. We invite Him into our home and our hearts daily, and actively pursuit Christian lessons and values in how to live our lives according to God’s Word. We have an open heart to grow our faith, and we have open minds to freely ask questions and share challenges in understanding our beliefs. We base our life values on God’s call to love and honor and respect and be honest and responsible.
Give Generously: We live in the land of abundance, and we have been blessed with much. We are called to be generous with our portion and give to those in need. In our home, greed is unacceptable. We share without hesitation and offer our possessions and our belongings and our gifts to those who have less.
Dream extravagantly: We were born with unlimited potential to be anything we dream to be. Each one of us is created with miraculous wonder and there is no limit to what we can do with our lives! In our home, we are free to dream big and discover the endless possibilities for our futures. There is nothing impossible, if we pursuit our passion within God’s purpose and plan.
What are your house rules? I would love to add to ours, if you have suggestions…
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
By Chris Carter
Wife to Derek
Mom of two
SAHM (Stay at Home Mom)
1 Corinthains 13 Parenting Team Member
Blogger at The Mom Cafe