Christ alone in my marriage.
In February, I defined the gospel as “Jesus’ life, death, resurrection, and ascension.” It is about what Jesus has done and is truly good news.
Based on this definition, how does the gospel impact your marriage?
Many books, articles and blog posts have been written on the topic of a gospel centered marriage. Depending on how the author defines that term will determine if I agree or not. If the author wants to add a little Jesus to their marriage or give a bunch of rules or tips for a godly marriage, then most likely I will disagree.
Jesus is not an add-on to our marriage. In a similar way, gospel centered should not be about what we need to do (tips, rules, suggestions) because the gospel is about Jesus and what He has done for us. In our marriages, we have mixed the gospel with the law. The two need to be kept separate.
As a husband, I don’t need a list of how to be better. I need Christ. As I look to Christ and remember what Christ has done for me, I begin to change as a husband. The more people remind me that Jesus paid for all my sins on the cross, perfectly fulfilled the law in my place, and obeyed completely on my behalf, I am free to focus on loving my wife rather than trying to earn love from her, keeping track of her sins, or working hard to make sure God is pleased with and loves me.
In Christ, I am completely forgiven, loved, accepted, and pleasing to God.
Dear husband and wife,
I am not going to give you a list or steps you need to follow to be better. I, along with Paul, don’t know anything specific about your marriage, but I do know what your marriage needs and it is to focus and remember what Jesus has done for you.
For I decided to know nothing among you
except Jesus Christ and him crucified.
1 Corinthians 2:2
By J.L. Martin
Husband to Bethany
Dad of 1 boy, 3 girls
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Pastor of Children and Family at Hesston MB Church