I see lots of adults for counseling, but I see many “little hearts” too. These little ones often come to me fractured and broken in pieces. I work tirelessly with these amazing children to put the pieces back together and to show them the truth about who God says they are. hearts
God has given me the ability to quickly connect with kids! What a gift. He brings me shy, loud, silly, stinky, sad, expressive, creative children. Even though they are all so different, I have found that they all have one thing in common–they want an answer to one question:
Am I good enough?
Yes, you are! Let me show you!
With one of my little 9 year old clients, we are working on building up self-esteem & confronting negative self-talk instilled in him by his father with severe mental illness. He came to me with labels for himself like stupid, hideous, and dumb. These were the words given to him by a man plagued with hurt and sadness. This little boy was angry and sad and unsure how to talk about it, so he began to believe that these words must be true.
I created a plan for us to fight together against these words! Each week we play games and take turns saying something positive and life-giving about ourselves. “I’m amazing!” he would proclaim as he moved carefully slipped out a Jenga piece. “Mr. Kegan, you’re compassionate!” he would say as he advanced in a round of Uno. “I am a masterpiece!” he said, one day… and I couldn’t stop the tears welling up in my eyes. Wow. I felt so proud of him for learning and believing these truths about himself. He loves this game. Every time we sit down to play, his face lights up and he stands a little taller. Little by little we have worked together to “undo” negative self-talk and to fix his little heart. hearts
He (and his mom) gave me a Christmas gift (see the picture above) one night recently after a session. Look at how he decorated the front. You can see that the words of life are sinking in and taking root!
Parents, speak life to your children! Choose to play an active role in stamping out destructive messages in your home. Practice positive statements that build up self-worth.
Here are a few examples:
“I’m grateful for you.”
“I love your creativity.”
“That’s such a great question.”
“Your friends are so blessed to have you as a friend.”
“Being your parent is my favorite job.”
Ephesians 2:10 says, “We are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago” (NLT).
Let’s show love to all of the kids in our life this way!
Who is God placing on your heart to encourage that he or she is… God’s masterpiece?
By Kegan Mosier, MA, LPCC
Husband to Mikelle
Dad of one daughter, Reese Noel
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Mental Health Counselor at Cornerstone Christian Counseling,
Worship/Creative Ministries Pastor at Passionate Life Church