“Good for you honey! I love that you are listening to God’s nudges!”
These types of conversations happen regularly in our home, as I have been slowly teaching my kids to ‘listen to God’s nudges’ deep within their hearts. Those nudges…are the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit.
My daughter has especially been drawing into God’s whispers as she navigated a torrential downpour of social issues that seemed to come in waves of difficult decisions regarding friendships in these tween years. It hasn’t been easy for her. Throughout this year, she has experienced the contrasting pain that comes with friendships which seems to birth itself during this season of hormonal eruptions. The battleground of the school playground transformed into cliques and critiques drifting and changing with every whim. Friends have abandoned her over and over again, leaving her sitting on the swing reading a book alone at recess. Kids that used to include her, reject her because she is ‘too immature’ or ‘studies too much’. She watches them form into groups that practice for talent shows together and converse with giggles in corners as she walks by…
And she somehow manages to hold on to her heart, even as it crumbles into pieces. As difficult as this year has been, it has also been a year of growing her faith, and teaching her how to steer her turns with the Holy Spirit’s help.
We talk about how God can guide her through these ever changing moments throughout her day. She is aware of God’s nudges more and more as we continue to pray about it every day on the way to school. She has made good decisions regarding who she should ‘hang out with’ and who she needs to stay away from, in response to those nudges from God. Her holy radar is up and alive…
And God’s voice is strong and faithful, ministering to her precious heart through it all.
My children and I often talk about how God can lead us and direct us in our decisions through our days and His Presence is with us always. Both of my kids are deeply aware of His Spirit’s guidance in making good choices and its conviction in realizing where we may need to change how we think and behave. It’s a constant journey in learning about this critical piece of God’s faithfulness in our lives. If we don’t allow Him to move within us, through us, before us…then our faith is stagnant and limited and our walk withers.
I want my children to understand the depths of this piece of the Trinity. It’s a difficult concept to articulate and present to kids, isn’t it?
That’s why I have created the phrase- “God’s Nudges”.
Every morning, when we pray in the car on the way to school, I ask God to guide their hearts and help them to make good decisions. I offer the daily invitation for our Heavenly Father to speak to us and through us in sharing His Light and His Love and His Grace for all to see. I ask for God to use each one of us in our day, and nudge us in the direction He wants us to go. With this prayer, we have purposefully launched our day right into our Father’s Hands. There is an amazing spirit of peace and hope and joy that fills the air, with this powerful prayer we seal with an “Amen”.
And I am at peace knowing I have entrusted their day to God. That is the only way I can let go… of the worry, the wondering.
Having that assurance and confidence that they are in God’s Hands, and my children’s hearts are open to His Voice…brings me peace beyond all understanding.
My son is also opening his heart to listen to God’s nudges, as he extends kindness to a neglected child in school or reaches out a helping hand to a teammate on the field. His heart is open to those nudges, and it shows in his loving compassion for others. I see signs of God’s love in practice with so many choices he makes to care about his peers and respect authority. He too, allows God to guide him through his day.
As parents, we have a great calling. We are to teach our children about Christ’s sacrifice and God’s ultimate gift. But we can’t stop there. The Holy Spirit is where our faith comes alive and lives among us, as God’s nudges direct our paths. This is the final and critical piece to our faith, and one we cannot neglect in raising our children to be pillars of light in this world. Our faith journey depends on His Holy Spirit to edify, convict, lead and minister to our souls. Our children are never too young to listen to His Nudges. We are living examples in our every day, to show them how those nudges can grow us and change us and ultimately reach the lives of many who do not know Christ.
How are you teaching your kids about the Holy Spirit? Are you showing your kids by example, how the Holy Spirit’s power has an impact on your own faith?
I would love to know.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
By Chris Carter
Wife to Derek
Mom of two
SAHM (Stay at Home Mom)
1 Corinthains 13 Parenting Team Member