These are three of the pressing questions most kids and teens are wrestling with. As Christians, we may be thinking about asking some other questions. Whose am I? Where am I going? How will this immediate decision look in the light of eternity?
While coaching adult clients, I challenge them to think about who they want to be in their marriage, their home, their job, or their friendships. On some level, we can choose or decide whom we want to be (loving, patient, kind) and other times it feels that who we are just shows up (tired, frustrated, self absorbed). The good news is we are all works in progress and we are not the only ones at work!
I’m not sure what your thoughts are about the movie Divergent, but it was a great conversation starter for my daughter and me. The movie is about a girl who is living in a world where people are divided into distinct factions based on human virtues. The main character is “divergent” because she has bits of all of the virtues and cannot be pinned to just one. We talked about how beauty is found in being a combination of virtues.
Taking it a step further, we talked about the how the fruits of the Spirit, love, joy, peace patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22) are the mix of virtues or attributes that God desires to create in us.
Feeling brave, I asked my daughter Kate to name the fruits of the Spirit that she could see in me. This was eye opening as she described the fruits that are present and those that are developing or in progress. Some caught me by surprise; others seemed to be a great confirmation of how God is growing me.
The good news is that even though I may think about who I want to be as a wife, mother, and friend, I don’t have to “create” these attributes on my own. Psalm 1 paints a great picture of who we can be when we are filled with God’s Word and the Holy Spirit works to grow this fruit in us! God has the water to grow the fruit so we can be all God has in store for us!
But his delight is in the law of the Lord and on his law he meditates day and night.
He is like a tree planted by streams of water which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.
Who is it that you desire to be? What “fruit” can you see God is growing in you? How can you spend more time receiving God’s water to grow more fruit in you?
By Heather Larson, M.A.
Wife to Peter
Mom of three
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Associate Director of 10 Great Dates