Would your daughter rather be a sexy, scandalous pop star or a mom who bakes for her family? Who would your son prefer to date? Someone who looks like belly-baring Miley or fully-clothed Betty?
It’s worth mentioning that when I refer to Betty Crocker, I’m not including the multi-billion dollar Betty Crocker/General Mills food products empire. I only aim to conjure up an image of homemaker, cake baker, child caretaker. Further, I’m referring to a wholesome “mom image,” whether that mom works inside the home or ALSO outside the home. I don’t think that image is promoted to modern girls and boys, as something to which they should aspire or admire. In fact, I know some folks who could offer experiential proof that a “Betty Crocker image” is demeaned in our society.
Back to my original question… which female image is more attractive to your daughter or son? Miley or Betty? If your answer is “Betty,” it might be because your innocent toddler or pre-schooler still needs a mom more than a pop idol. But, how will your children answer when they’re 8 or 12 or 16 years old?
This is a modern dilemma for parents. In our selfie-obsessed and image-driven culture, our kids are told they’ll find more success baring their chests, breasts or bottoms, bleaching their hair, botoxing their lips and seeking box office fame. Kids are bombarded with images, suggesting they’re more important if they can sing a sexy song than if they can help an elderly widow. They’re told they’ll be more successful if they make the cover of a tabloid than if they choose a career helping troubled teens. Think about that. Where will the world be in 100 years if the next generation cares more about tummy tucks than helping hands… and puts fat wallets ahead of hungry stomachs? generations
God tells us the two most important goals in our lives should be to love Him and to love our neighbor (Mark 12:29). But, our kids are told the number one goal should be to throw a football on Sunday and marry a supermodel… or be a supermodel. I can think of at least one football thrower who married a supermodel… and that combination shouldn’t necessarily be equated with “role model.” It’s up to parents to counter these pop culture images and provide our kids with alternative images that honor God and neighbors.
Even as we approach Christmas, I’m struck by the fact that a modern girl’s view of “Madonna” is not necessarily of a sweet, young woman who trusted God and gave birth in a humble stable. No, instead, girls have learned “Madonna” is an abrasive, scantily clad, self-promoter… a woman whose anything but humble. Which Madonna do you think our girls are told to idolize more?
If you’re a parent who worries that your children are being lured toward selfie-centered, self-consumed, self-exposing role models, I have a simple challenge for you. generations
I urge you to accept the challenge for the sake of future generations… and the growth of God’s Kingdom.
Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7
By Jenny Dean Schmidt
Wife of Mike
Mother of two teenagers, Otis and Georgia
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Executive Director, ChannelMom Media & Outreach and Host of ChannelMom Radio on 94.7 KRKS FM in Denver and also at channelmom.com.
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