“My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.“
We are like cisterns, made to hold the Living Water. However, trauma brings brokenness.
I felt so abandon by God in the midst of my divorce, I was cracked in many places and unable to be a life giving source to anyone.
The real tragedy was, even in this state of brokenness and feeling empty, my children needed me; if I did not connect with the Eternal Source of Life, I would have nothing to give them except an empty cistern.
Jeremiah warns God’s children of two evils that they have committed:
- they forsake God and
- they make for themselves broken cisterns
A cistern was the source of life for the community. Even if we are broken, we must turn to the Lord and allow Him to ‘fix’ our brokenness so that we have life giving water to give to our children.
Unfortunately, many single mothers spend all their energy focusing on their children’s cisterns.
They spend their time and resources on:
- Counseling for the children
- Activities for children so they feel affirmed
- Seeking out mentors and good teachers for the children
All the while the mother takes a sip from the Living Water from time to time, thinking it will maintain her life and the life of the children.
The problem is: if my cistern stays broken, my children will die of thirst, I will have nothing to give them, no ‘water of LIFE’. I must be an example of wholeness or the pursuit of wholeness before my children, I can give them a vision no matter what their age for how to HOLD Living Water and be a SOURCE for others.
Staying connected to the Father is important, maintaining and developing an intimate relationship with Him is vital for our sake and the children.
The BEST thing that we can offer our children is a parent that is able to parent out of a place of peace, hope, joy and LIFE. If we can parent from this place we create an environment for our children to find healing.
How do you quench your living water thirst so you can supply your child?
By Misty Honnold
Mother of 2 adult girls, 2 adult sons & 2 amazing NEW sons (married to daughters)
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Executive Director and Founder of The Single MOM KC
Hostess of Mocha Moments For The Single MOM