Last month I wrote about a parent that was exhausted by always packing her child’s “stuff” for school and sports. I gave some simple tips to help children take over the job of packing. That post got me thinking of all the other exhaustion points parents deal with daily. As we are heading into a new school year, what are your exhaustion points when it comes to your children’s school experience and home life?
Often when we are exhausted by a situation, it’s a “red flag” telling us that we have taken over a job that is not ours. Think about when you have colleague out sick or a spouse is out of town your life becomes much more tiring because you have taken over tasks that are not normally your responsibility. In regard to school and kids, help start the school year off on the right foot by recognizing the stress points and helping your children learn to take personal responsibility.
Common Problems and Solutions for Parental Exhaustion
- I am tired of always checking grades and making sure my child is keeping up.
- Help your child learn how to run a homework meeting so once a week HE can inform you of his grades. Then you can have more productive conversations about how to improve grades.
- I am talking to or emailing my child’s teachers on a weekly or daily basis to ask questions about assignments and see how my child can improve.
- From the time children are in elementary school, teach them how to email teachers. Instead of the parent always being the communicator, the child can be the one to ask those questions. Request to be copied on the email to hold the child accountable for completing this task.
- My mind is always racing with due dates and requirements for my children’s assignments and tests.
- Require your child uses a planner to document due dates and home work. The homework meeting is a great time for the child to show you how he has been using this tool.
- I am anxious because my child always waits until the last minute to study for a test or doesn’t study at all.
- Having regular homework meetings and requiring planner use will help your child be organized to do more than last minute studying. Have him document actual study time a few days before tests. In learning how to study it is important that your child studies “many times, many ways”. That means to repeat the information over a longer period of time as well as each time he reviews the material he can do it in a different way. Click HERE for effective study skills and links to other posts to improve the learning process.
If you are dreading the school year for the added stress it brings to your family, try to recognize those triggers and slowly throughout the year make a point to teach your child how to take responsibility. You will hold him accountable for doing his job as a student. More importantly for you, it will not be as exhausting because you’re not taking over a job that is not yours.
For each will have to bear his open load.
Galatians 6:5 ESV
By Megan Stone, M.Ed.
Wife to Rick, Mom of two
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of Stone Foundations of Learning, Inc.
Author of Own Your Education! A Student’s Guide to Greater Success in School (And Life)
And for more about these organizational concepts, read Own Your Education: A Student’s Guide to Greater Success in School (and Life).