For many families, that isn’t a problem. We dads tend to be a favorite playmate of our sons and daughters; and as the natural leaders of our households, we strive to push them towards healthy success. Still, there are instances where even children of intact and “Christian” families may fall through the cracks in some capacity.
According to www.thefatherlessgeneration.wordpress.com, here are just a few examples of what happens when a father is or is not active in his children’s lives:
- 71% of all high school drop outs, 85% of all youths in prison, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
- Approximately 25 million children live absent of their biological father, half of whom have never even been to the father’s home.
- Children with INVOLVED fathers (married or single) are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school, are more likely to get A’s in school, do better overall academically, socially, and emotionally, and are less likely to partake in damaging or criminal behavior.
Dads, let me take a minute to address the obvious here: it is going to be much harder for us to be a godly factor in our children’s lives if God isn’t a factor in our own.
Our choices and the way we handle certain areas of life will be directly proportional to our own relationship with the Lord. A dad who is leading his family daily in Christ and active in their spiritual and physical development will more than likely will see the good fruits of his labor. A father withdrawn from his walk sets a tone and model that will ultimately affect those in his household for the worse─ either directly or indirectly.
Deuteronomy 28 is quite specific in describing generational curses and blessings. Paul instructs us in 1 Corinthians 11:28 to “examine ourselves” in reference to our relationship with the Lord. For us dads, that means accepting the God-ordained responsibility of being our family’s physical and spiritual leader…whether we live with them or not. It means taking up our cross when it comes to putting in overtime on the parenting shift after a long week at work. It also means letting God dig down into the innermost parts of our own hearts and souls and allowing Him to remove anything sinful that is eating away at us spiritually, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.
Guys, the gift of fatherhood is one of the greatest blessings God could ever bestow on any of us. And… and that makes His presence in our lives that much more priceless.
Then our sons in their youth will be like well-nurtured plants,
and our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace.
Dads, is the Father a factor in your life today?
Dad of a daughter
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of “A Father’s Walk”
Author of A Father’s Walk: A Christian-Based Resources for Single Fathers.