At this time of year, are you bombarded by suggestions and advice about how to create a better you? People create lists of resolutions and promise themselves, “This year will be different. I will…lose weight, spend more time with God, be more patient.” You can fill in the blank. Most often by the end of January we’ve fallen into old habits and our promise to ourselves that “this year will be different” seems impossible to fulfill. success
So how can you really make this year different? How do people become successful in changing behavior? The answer is by relying on others to help support you throughout a journey of change.
I’ve often written about the importance of students learning to run a meeting with adults and practicing with a parent during a weekly homework meeting. This practice is important for your child to individually grow in confidence and leadership. You can also use these skills to strengthen your family by having a weekly family meeting. This meeting is not to replace your child’s homework meeting but to encourage change and growth in you and your family over this upcoming year.
This meeting is a weekly time for your family to reconnect and work on growing throughout the year. Get everyone involved. Every member of the family can create and ask a question of each family member every week. In my family, we had each person come up with a question that either supported or challenged another. The four questions we ask each other are:
- What are you looking forward to this week?
- What is a goal you have this week?
- What is a prayer request for the week?
- Will you share one thing you appreciate about each member of the family from the past week?
Other possibilities can include:
What’s a high and a low from the previous week?
What kind of help or support you need to be successful?
What’s one funny thing that happened to you in the last week?
When did you experience the most joy this past week?
The question options are endless! The important thing is that each family member gets to pick one and help to facilitate a question every week. Success and personal growth are key.
As we know with resolutions and the promise of growth and change in a new year, doing it on your own is almost impossible. By working as a family team, you can support and love each other to look at weekly goals that can make a long lasting change on each member of your family. Remember that you may fall short sometimes forgetting to have the meeting or you might find the regular scheduled time doesn’t work. That’s okay! Just try again next week or have a shortened meeting to get back on track. The more family meetings you have, the more bonding your family members will do together. success
So encourage each other and build each other up,
just as you are already doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 NLT
Does your family have weekly family meetings? How do the meeting encourage personal growth and success in each family member?
By Megan Stone, M.Ed.
Wife to Rick, Mom of two
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder of Stone Foundations of Learning, Inc.
Author of Own Your Education! A Student’s Guide to Greater Success in School (And Life)
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