I just finished training 100 parents on how to use Family Time: “How many believe God calls the family to be the primary source of spiritual training in the lives of their children?” 100 hands go up. “How many believe Family Time is a fun and effective tool for teaching children the faith at home?” 100 hands go up.
Home centered spiritual training is a commandment from God and Family Time provides a simple strategy—20 minutes once a week—for parents to begin teaching the faith at home. We have a Godly goal and a simple, doable strategy.
So why is it that when I go back and speak to that same group of 100 families three months later, only 3 to 5 families are still leading a weekly Family Time? family faith habits
Charles Duhigg gives a possible answer in his book, The Power of Habit. Mr. Duhigg talks about the habit loop: a cue which triggers a routine and leads to a reward. A 20 minute weekly Family Time is a routine. What is your cue? For our family it was the same night each week, Tuesday. It could be a family calendar which tracks the next Family Time. Or, it could be doing a Family Time with another family each week. family faith habits
What is your reward? Having fun together as a family! A snack after Family Time is over. Even, parents hearing their kids incorporate spiritual concepts and stories in their daily conversations and actions.
Tuesday night (cue). 20 minute Family Time (routine). Fun together as a family (reward). habits
If you are having a hard time maintaining a regular Family Time, check or tweak the components of your habit loop. Does a week go by and you say, “Oops, we were too busy and forgot Family Time this week.” Maybe you need a different cue. Are your weekly Family Time’s growing stale? Perhaps you need a different reward. Are you a homeschooling parent and you want to include a daily Family Time lesson? Maybe you need to change your routine. family faith habits
Spiritual training in the home is God’s idea. That means it is good and worthy of our time. The habit loop provides insight into the how God made us. Knowing how we are made can help us in being obedient to God’s commands.
By Kirk Weaver
Husband to Trudi
Dad to two
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Founder and Executive Director of Family Time Training