I have to admit, I have a hard time with holidays that are commercialized by card companies like Valentine’s Day and even Father’s Day and Mother’s Day. I appreciate the concept that it’s good to slow down and take time to show my love and admiration. It just feels a little contrived. I’d rather celebrate how special these people are to me on ordinary days too. I mean, purchasing overpriced flowers, cards, and gifts for one day set aside on the calendar as a day to appreciate or show love is nice, but the sincerity can be a little questionable. How about a thoughtful note or text on a random day?
This past Valentine’s Day, Peter was out of town and my son wanted to do his best to make me feel loved. Unfortunately, the morning did not go as he had envisioned. He planned to bring me breakfast in bed. Instead I made a special breakfast for him as well as his sisters. It was a morning of disappointment and frustration for him, as nothing in our home resembled the image of the Valentine’s Day he had seen on TV.
But…he secretly worked to have a Valentine’s re-do. He had Peter in on this surprise! They got up early to bring me breakfast in bed. It was better than breakfast on Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day. It was his way of saying he loved me on an ordinary day. This translates well for husbands and wives.
There’s not a “Love Your Spouse Day” yet. I’m sure it could be coming. In the meantime, how can I show my husband that I love him everyday? It doesn’t have to be flowers or breakfast in bed. I can give him a compliment, send him a text, or write him a handwritten note. I can make a special dinner or plan a date. I don’t have to wait until “Love Your Spouse Day” to show him that I love him. I can show him in big and small ways everyday that he is loved and appreciated.
How about you? How can you show your spouse it’s “Love Your Spouse Day” everyday? Start today. The best gift you can give your children is to love your spouse.
By Heather Larson, speaker, author, and life coach at Bridgewell Coaching.