What if we treated marriage as a living entity? What if marriage was considered a life that will not live without daily feeding and care? A wise marriage counselor shared the wisdom that marriages will not survive unless we feed them each day. His challenge was to be intentional about doing something to “feed” your marriage everyday.
Peter and I took up the challenge. We have decided to add couple morning prayer to our day. Peter is not a morning person, so I wake him each day, 15 minutes earlier than usual with a cup of coffee. As he lies in bed, we talk about our up coming day, the kids, and what we need prayer for. Together we pray for one another and our kids. This small new habit has impacted our relationship in so many ways. Throughout the day, I pray for him knowing what his upcoming challenges are and he does the same for me. At the end of the day, when we check in with one another, we can be specific to ask how particular challenges were met.
Praying together each morning might not be something you want to add to your day. Or maybe you feel your spouse might not have the same desire to “feed” your marriage each day. That’s okay. One person feeding the marriage will make an impact.
So think about, what is one thing you might do today? Maybe it’s something small like making a favorite dessert or filling a gas tank. Perhaps your way to feed the marriage is something internal like praying for your spouse or choosing to start a list of things you are grateful for in your spouse.
Invite your spouse to think about feeding your marriage with you. Brainstorm together ideas that would feel realistic and doable. Start small. One couple we know has started reading a book together each evening.
The righteous will flourish like a palm tree…
What will you do today to feed your marriage? Don’t let it starve and die!
By Heather Larson, M.A.
Wife to Peter
Mom of three
1 Corinthians 13 Team Member
Associate Director of 10 Great Dates
Previously posted on 1Corinthians13Parenting.com on February 4, 2015.