As we prayed over people at church this past Sunday, I opened my eyes and realized that both of our grand-babies were watching my husband and I very closely. I smiled and winked at them and they returned the smile. Within moments, the youngest bowed her head and closed her eyes to pray for the people. Telling our grandchildren to pray and teaching them prayer is important but what is more impactful is that we pray with them and that they see us pray for others.
They follow our example more than our words.
As we strolled into one of our favorite hang-out places: Whole Foods, we headed to the vegan oatmeal raisin cookies for me and the regular chocolate chunk cookies for my grand-babies. While they decided which cookies were the biggest because they are only allowed one each, I was listening to the conversation of the woman next to us on the phone. It was evident that she is having a very difficult time in her personal life. She spoke of “trying to trust God” but feeling so discouraged. We selected our cookies but I stood there moments longer. The girls watched me watching the woman. I was praying for her within my heart. Suddenly her phone died. No accident. It was a part of God’s plan because it gave me the chance to extend a warm smile. She hesitated and smiled back at me. I asked her if it was alright if I hugged her. Her pale cheeks turned flush and she brushed her blonde hair back from her forehead and said, “I don’t know. Ok. Yes.” I wrapped my arms around her and whispered in her ear, “Jesus loves you.” I told her that he cares, hears and is near to her and that trusting Him is the best and only answer. She wept. She held on tight and I prayed over her. She thanked me and called me an angel from God. With the biggest smile on her face my oldest grand-daughter said, “She’s not an angel, she’s my Grandma. Her name is Lisa Shaw Cares”. I bust out with the biggest smile and tears rolled down my face because clearly she sees me as Grandma who cares about other people. She knows the ministry name is Lisa Shaw Cares but more importantly she sees that I do care about people.
They follow our example more than our words.
Recently I was very hurt by someone that I care about. This has been a long-standing situation and normally I can pray through it and speak with my husband but this time the hurt cut so deep that anger set in. I began a rant in my home-office—you know how that can look for us ladies. My precious husband offered support, words of encouragement and strength and his arms open to hold me. He reassured me that God is working in the situation and I know that very clearly but in that moment of pain and weariness I was angry at the person who continues to bring deep hurt to my heart. And there are some people you can’t just walk away from because of who they are in your life. I finally fell into my husband’s arms with no more words just tears. He began to pray over me and soothe my broken heart. Suddenly, I felt small arms wrapped around one side of me and tiny arms wrapped around the other. These arms were small but they gripped my legs and waist tightly. Yes, it was our 6 and 7 year old granddaughters. I looked down and they were praying for me along with their Grandpa. You see, they held me as he did. They prayed over me as he did. Why?
Because children learn by following our example more than our words.
It doesn’t impress their hearts as much to receive instructions on how to live and why but to also see us living it out before them—during the good, the bad and the ugly times.
We must be a light for Christ shining before our children and grandchildren in ways that makes them want to live for Him and to glorify our Father in heaven. Let’s not hide the light but rather let’s shine bright for them and the world to see and come to know Jesus.
You are the light of the world.
A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden.
Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lamp stand,
and it gives light to all who are in the house.
Let your light so shine before men,
that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:14-16 (NKJV)
In what ways do you notice your children or grandchildren following your examples? Are you consciously aware that they are watching you?
Blessings and peace!
Pastor Lisa Shaw
Wife to Pastor Peter, Grandma to 2 sisters
1C13P team member, Bible Teacher, Speaker, Radio Host, Mentor/Coach
Author of You Are Beautiful in God’s Eyes
Founder of the teaching ministry: Lisa Shaw Cares