We have a guest blogger today, Linda Ranson Jacobs. She ministers to divorced women and encourages grandparents get involved in their grandkids’ lives, especially if there has been a divorce or death of a parent. She is a grandmom to 10 and has successfully worked with kids who experience trauma. Read her practical post on how to be involved with the grandchildren in both good times and bad. Enjoy!
With faith, hope, and love,
Lori & Becky
Grandparents are special people to their grandchildren. This is never truer than when there are problems. Grandmothers and Grandfathers can be a safe place for the child to fall.
I know this to be true because I lived with my grandchildren when their mother, my daughter, was deployed to Afghanistan.
In good times and troubling times you can be there.
- Provide a safe place for you grandchild to express his or her feelings about what is happening in their lives.
- Always remember you are not the child’s parent.
- Be open to listening to your grandchild without judging.
- Listen to your grandchild without making any comments. Sometimes kids just need a listening ear.
- Provide fun day or a relaxing get away for a day, a weekend and during holidays.
- Purchase special non-expensive gifts on Valentine’s Day, Easter, Halloween.
- Always remember your grandchild on their birthdays by calling emailing a card or mailing birthday cards.
- Celebrate special days such as
- National Ice Cream Day, July 19
- National Bubble Gum Day (first Friday in February)
- International Pillow Fight Day, April 7
- Skate Boarding Day, June 21
- International Talk Like a Pirate Day, September 19
- Dress Up Your Pet Day January 14
- Seuss Day, March 2
- National Chocolate Day October 28 (also July 7)
Or just make up your own special days and rituals. When my grandchildren come to see me we always have smoothies. Even the teen grandson gets involved by always any without fail by pulling out the canned whipped cream out of the fridge. It’s his contribution to the event.
If you are a grandparent that lives a distance away celebrate the fun and whacky days like National Ice Cream Day of Bubble Gum Day on Face Time or Skype. You can eat an ice cream cone together or chew bubble gum and see who can blow the biggest bubble.
Most importantly, pass on the faith.
Grandparents can be a catalyst to passing on their faith to the grandchildren. They can share answered prayers. They can send a short scripture on the day of a test. They can read bible stories together and take the children to church with them.
We will not hide them from their descendants;
we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord,
his power, and the wonders he has done.
Psalm 78:4 (NIV)
How do you think grandparents can pour into their grandchildren when one or even both of the parents are struggling?
Linda Ranson Jacobs has extensive experience at successfully accommodating children who have experienced a trauma, have out of control behaviors, who are grieving the death of a parent or a divorce. She developed the DivorceCare for Kids program (DC4K) and she blogs regularly at blog.dc4k.org. Currently she and her husband have 10 grandchildren between them. She also serves as Children’s Ministry Consultant at a church in Florida. Click here to find out more about Linda’s book or to get it on Amazon.