“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce
One day, after almost 10 hours of sessions with clients, coming face to face with deep darkness and pain… I left feeling spiritually strong (because of the power of the Holy Spirit), but mentally exhausted. What was most concerning was how angry I felt at the hurt and sadness I saw afflicting my client’s lives. Typically, I am able to “leave work at work,” but today, I stayed very angry. This led me to think about my own problems and the friends and family I know who are going through unimaginable pain and trials as well. I got distracted, and my mind was in a downward spiral.
So I stopped. “Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10 NASB). The Passion Translation says,“Surrender your anxiety! Be silent and stop your striving, and you will see that I am God!”
All of these questions flooded my mind:
– Do I feel entitled to my anger?
– Am I giving more attention and power to the enemy by allowing myself to sit with the anger?
– Is my negativity skewing the trajectory of my prayer and my ability to focus? How do I shift that?
I turned my focus to Jesus, I prayed, and decided to give it all to Him. “You can have it all, Lord.” Suddenly, something shifted, my perspective changed, and I felt calm… almost total peace. Such a dramatic shift.
Scripture says that, “God is Love” (1 John 4:8), that “Love is not easily angered” (1 Corinthians 13:5), and that we are to “be imitators of God” (Ephesians 5:1). This means that we must keep calm, be slow to speak, quick to listen, and not easily angered.
Frustrating circumstances and interactions with certain people can cause us to get angry very quickly and to speak without thinking about the consequences. It is okay to feel anger, but sometimes I sit it mine and it hurts myself and others. James 1:19 says we should be doing the opposite: “Be quick to listen, but slow to speak. Be slow to become angry.” When I get angry and irritable, I am learning that this is a part of me that I haven’t allowed the love of Jesus full access to, yet.
Sometimes I find myself praying, “God, this person feels really hard to love right now….” I hear God, in a gentle and kind voice say, “I love you even when you aren’t being very ‘lovable.’ In fact I sent my son to die for you, and all the world even when it was saturated in sin (Romans 5:8). I desire to teach you how to do the same. You can do this my child!”
When I find that I angry, even if it feels justified… I know that I need to assign myself a “time out.” During this time, I do things that connect me to God, allow peace to break apart angry thoughts, and calm my body down (i.e. going to the gym, drawing, playing guitar, praying, writing, taking a walk).
If you find yourself angry in the next week, what is one intentional activity you would do to draw near to God and allow Him to exchange it for peace? Try praying for the person your anger feels directed towards (i.e. spouse, child, boss, neighbor).
Be still, and know that I am God.
Psalm 46:10 NASB
What do you do to connect yourself to God, allow peace to break apart your angry thoughts, and calm yourself?
By Kegan Mosier, MA, LPCC
Husband to Mikelle
Dad of one daughter, Reese Noel
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member
Mental Health Counselor at Cornerstone Christian Counseling,
Worship/Creative Ministries Pastor at Passionate Life Church