I have passed my love of reading and love for the Lord along to my children.
When my son and daughter ask me what I want for Christmas I typically give them a book title. But here’s the twist. I don’t want to receive the book. I want to have a dialog about the book as my gift.
I ask my kids to read the book for me.
If they are willing, I let them know I would love to receive a one-page journal on their thoughts about the book.
I’ve also expressed my gift requests in the form of sermons on DVD. In this case, I ask my kids to watch the video with me. Then we discuss it. By doing this, I’ve been able to expose my children to the thoughts and ideas of a wide variety of church leaders. And…reinforce some values I hope to instill in my children.
Can you imagine talking with your kids, your teens, at length and in-depth about one particular faith issue?
The conversation would look a lot like a lecture, one-sided. All Dad with the tween discretely –or not- rolling his eyes. Much of it would fall on deaf ears. But… by having the child evaluate and communicate about a book’s premise or a spoken message a real conversation can take place.
I have found my tweens receive a message I hope to convey or reinforce better from a “nonrelated-expert”. This approach has a way of removing some of the emotionally charged parent-child interaction. The discussion becomes more logical and interactive. We have been able to cover some important, personal topics in a setting that feels safe. Plus I get the bonus of spending some fruitful and intentional time with my kids during the busy holiday season.
What messages do you want your kids to incorporate into their hearts and minds? How do you go about this?
The price of wisdom is beyond rubies.
By Kirk Weaver
Husband to Trudi, Father of 2
1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team Member, Founder of Family Time Training