I received an email from a dad of children ages 5 and 2. His kids each demonstrate a preference for one parent over another. His two-year-old son prefers mom and shows his choice through crying and other behaviors. The five-year-old daughter favors dad. She verbalizes statements like, “Mommy, I’m glad you’re working late tonight.” Appearing to indicate she prefers time with dad. (Ouch… this type of thing can stab a mom in the heart.)
This dad asked me these questions:
- How do we as parents encourage our children to want to be with both of us?
- How do we stay on the same page a parents (and as spouses), when it is easy to have hurt feelings and/or be competitive with each other?
- How do we express to our children that they have hurt our feelings in a way that isn’t shame-inducing or creates a “complex” of some kind? We don’t want them to be walking on egg shells around us either.
Click here to read the answers to these great questions and discover the things to avoid and actions to take when this dynamic is a part of your family.
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