These are typical responses to the dawdler. When a child lingers after repeated requests to move, it’s natural to be frustrated. If you get aggravated with your little dawdler, know you are not alone!
Getting kids moving when they are not interested in the schedule is a challenge for parents. Even when it’s just getting to the dinner table the task can seem troublesome. And when we get right down to it, punctuality is polite and tardiness is rude.
So what do we do with the little dawdler? Here are three strategies to help you and your child.
3 Tips to Stop Dawdling
• Get involved.
Children love to play and children love to include Mom and Dad. Get in the action with whatever your child is playing with at the time. While you’re busy playing, mention there will be a conclusion to the activity. When the time is near, help the child clean up. Putting toys away is always more productive when someone else helps. Talk about how fun the playtime was and how you’re looking forward to taking the toys out again another day.
• Prepare the child for action.
Ten minutes prior to a change in activities (mealtime, leaving the house, bedtime, etc.), let the child know he will be finished with the current activity. At the five- minute mark, announce there are five minutes left. Repeat at two minutes. Then point to the clock, announce time is up and gently move with the child. Discuss what is happening next as the two of you walk.
• Use a timer.
Set a timer to do the dirty work. Tell the child the timer will ring and then playtime is done. When the timer goes off, be prepared to leave. Follow through even if the child resists.
Be a good role model for your children in this aspect of life too. Plan ahead for activities so you’re not rushing out the door, frustrated because you’re late. The dawdler will learn tips from you along the way and your home will be a much more peaceful place.
Love is not rude.
1 Corinthians 13:5a
By Becky Danielson
Wife to Scott, mom of two
Licensed Parent & Family Educator
Co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
Co-author of The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series
Raising Little Kids with Big Love and
Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love
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