We are thrilled to have Abby Ludvigson guest post for 1C13P today. Her new series, Sex By Design: Unpacking the Purpose and Practice of Purity, will be available soon. Be blessed and encouraged by her words.
With faith, hope & love,
Lori and Becky
Our youth are growing up during a time in history when it has never been more challenging to live out a sexually pure lifestyle. They are being bombarded by thousands of sexual messages and images each day.
What is the solution? Parents are the key to turning the tide of our sexualized youth culture – not the government, not the school system, not even the church. Unfortunately, when it comes to shaping their teen’s view on sexuality, most parents don’t feel equipped to fulfill their God-given role as shepherd and teacher.
Three misleading emotions commonly keep parents from having courageous conversations with their teen. Can you relate to one of these?
DISQUALIFIED – “I didn’t wait, so how could I talk with my teen about remaining pure?” No one is more qualified than you! You know from personal experience why sex is best saved for marriage and the natural consequences that come from going outside God’s bounds. You have an opportunity to cast a God-glorifying vision for your teen’s life while also helping them navigate around the detours and pitfalls that come from pre-marital sex. If you step out in faith, God will to take your mess and turn it into a powerful message.
DISTRACTED – “We both work and our free time is spent driving the kids all over town. We don’t know when we’d fit this in and honestly, we wouldn’t know what to say.” Don’t let busyness rob you of valuable conversations with your teen. Whether it’s while driving your son to a basketball tournament or picking your daughter up from play practice, capitalize on every opportunity. Let go of the pressure to expect yourself to have all the answers. It doesn’t take a PhD to positively influence your teen’s perspective on sex – it just takes the committed and loving presence of parents fully invested in their teen’s life.
DISCOURAGED – “When I bring up the topic my teen gives me one word answers and changes the subject.” This is a normal response especially if you’ve just recently broached the topic. Ask God to soften your teen’s heart and provide you with opportunities to try again. Consider starting with a different topic (just as valuable but maybe less awkward) like modesty or dating and see where God takes it. Pick up a resource to help guide your discussions and think about going out for coffee, ice cream or dinner for uninterrupted time together.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification:
that you abstain from sexual immorality…
1 Thessalonians 4:3
Abby Ludvigson received her B.A. in Elementary Education and taught in the public school system before going on staff with The Minnesota Family Council. Then in 2011, she joined The Navigators as an urban missionary. Using her background in teaching, Abby designs and teaches her own purity curriculum around the Upper Midwest. In early 2015, her first film series entitled Sex By Design: Unpacking the Purpose and Practice of Purity will be released and has been endorsed by national leaders, including Josh McDowell. Contact Abby at www.abbyludvigson.com for more information. Watch for the upcoming release of Sex By Design: Unpacking the Purpose and Practice of Purity.